If Only There Was a Magic Button…

I don’t know about you, but I thought – I really, really thought – that I would have my life totally figured out by the time I turned 30. But when I got there, I felt like I was the furthest away from knowing myself and what I wanted to do with my life than ever before.

I was in a job already longer than I had intended to be in and I couldn’t see my way out of it. Not anywhere in the near future anyway.

I desperately needed a do-over.

I needed a magic button that would send me back in time to when I was deciding on my major and I would be able to save myself so much time, money and heartbreak. I’d make sure I had a job that I loved and I would ingeniously save up to protect myself from the 2008 economic crap puddle.

Of course, that wasn’t happening any time soon either so I had to figure out how I was going to redesign my life to not feel like a total loser thirtysomething who didn’t have her s#*t together.

I didn’t have the money at the time to be taking more courses; I was working full time to pay my bills and was already so so so tired every day. It was certainly not the ideal time to be starting over.

And, the cherry on top was that I wasn’t feeling like I was even capable of anything else and I wondered if I really deserved anything more.

But I had to do something.

The only thing I felt like doing was writing, so I searched, “How to be a writer.”

Google said, “Get a blog.”

Obviously, I listened.

Long story short, I now have a solid readership in 6 different countries. My blog turned into a coaching practice I love and I now teach others about how they can get a do-over a lot easier than they think.

I still teach, yes – but it’s on my terms. I’m never so so so tired anymore because of what I do. And, most importantly, I’m so so so much happier.

Wanna know the secret?
All I really did was follow what I love and rejig my schedule. It didn’t cost a thing and now I even have more time than when I started.

Wanna know more?

Very soon I’ll be doing a quickie webinar on the steps that helped me figure out this new plan. It’s all based on everything I also put into my ebook, DO-Over: How to Redesign Your Life to Get What You Really Want , but I’ll give you some added tips and tricks to help you apply this in a personal way.

 

If you’re in a similar spot or have been in the past, the webinar will show you how to get clear before you start experimenting all over the place and wasting precious time and money figuring out ‘the right thing’ to do.

I know now that I’ll never have everything ‘all figured out,’ but I also know I have gained some serious experience points and tips that have helped me become successful, and they still help me when I get in tight spots now.

Sign up for the webinar and you’ll see for yourself how simple the process of starting over can be – and why you need to get started… yesterday!

 

In related news, yesterday was National Unicorn Day. It’s the perfect time to believe in your own magic to make something happen. And if you’re not into unicorns and universe energy woowoo, then well, I feel sorry for you but I’ll try to cheer you up with this:

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Always believe in magic, baby!

Get started HERE today to be committed to the life you’ve always dreamed of!

5 Tips for Success in Your Thirties

This week I have a great video post and I hope you like it!

It’s entitled “The 5 Tips to Success in Your 30s” But now that I’ve actually rewatched the video, I realize these are not necessarily the kind of tips you might be expecting…

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I think I got a little carried away here and should have called the video something like, “5 Tips for Being an Awesome Person When You Grow Up“…but that didn’t exactly come to me yesterday…

So, ALAS!

Check out my 5 Tips for Success in Your 30s and share your thoughts below the video or directly on the blog. And feel free to add some “tips” of your own as well!

Special hashtag: #beagrownup

Plus, if you’d like to learn more great stuff about being in your thirties and how you can make it your most successful decade ever, get in touch for a chat! support@ashewoodward.com.

And don’t wait to grab your FREE copy of

The Thirtysomething’s Guide to Successful Goal-making HERE

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Don’t Miss it This Time

Hi thirtysomeone,

Thanks to so many of you who checked this out and participated in the recent ELMS Online Summit.

If you weren’t able to get in on it the first time around, let me tell ya – don’t miss it again! (Read on to find out how).

My friend Natalie Rose put together an amazing FREE online series, **Elite Life Mastery Secrets: Unleash Your Intuition, Reclaim Your Power and Take Charge of Your Life** and it’s generating quite a buzz.

We’re getting great feedback from people all over the world who are experiencing powerful motivation, inspiration and new awarenesses from watching these interviews (including mine, yay!)

I was hooked to the series all week long and I can tell you that this is a lot of value all for FREE! (SIGN UP HERE)

If you’re feeling stuck, indecisive, like something is missing in your life or you just need some reassurance that everything is going to be okay, then this summit is for you – THIRTY experts sharing their stories, practices and experience to help you be more confident, connected and fulfilled.

Seriously, this doesn’t disappoint.

Not only all of that but these are professionals who literally give away their secrets to success! I was truly inspired by the stories I heard and not only did I get some great tips but I also truly got the message that success is for anyone and everyone.

Honestly, I’m newly inspired to tackle my challenges head on for my next year in business.

If you haven’t checked it out yet, you’re in luck! There will be an open replay of ALL interviews all week long so you can watch and listen to EVERY ONE. (Productive binge-watching! Yes, it IS possible.)

Check it out here and take charge of your life now: LINK

I’d love to hear what you think about the interviews (especially mine *blush) on the Facebook page.

And if you’re finally ready to go for success full on, let’s chat about working together to get a plan in motion before 2016 is gone for good! Email me at support@ashewoodward.com or tweet to me @ashewoodz ad we can set up a time to chat. Let’s talk soon!

Did You Know THIS About Your 30s?

Whenever I talk about what I do, the first question people ask me is, “Why do you focus only on thirty-somethings?”

Good question.

I know it seems a little strange to seem to focus on only one age group but there’s so much going on here that there’s lots to work with, and I’m constantly surprised and challenged by my work.

And, to those of you who have wondered the same thing, let me also say that I don’t only work with thirty-somethings. I work with people of all ages, but I do focus on turning 30 as a pivotal moment for where success is at a make it or break it point.

Most importantly, I focus here because since I’ve been in my thirties, I’ve never felt such an interesting dichotomy: While I feel like I’ve come into my own and I have more self-confidence than ever, at the same time I feel like I’ve never been so unsure.

Basically, I’m fascinated by the mindset shift that happens on this birthday – for better or worse.

Personally, I always thought by the time I was 30, I’d have so much of life figured out and it would be pretty smooth sailing. I thought I’d have a secure job, a house, maybe kids and be living happily ever after with my prince charming.

While some of that dream came true, I’d say that there were more surprises than I thought and more exceptions to the rule than anything else.

But the greatest surprise of all was that I do feel like I know myself and what I truly want, more than ever before. I never expected this but I personally think it’s the best thing about turning 30 and even a superpower of this decade.

However, using my own story and the story of clients and friends, I can tell you that after 30 there’s a powerful shift that I’ve sometimes gone as far to call a mindfuck (and I’m not one to use that term lightly).

Some say we come into our own, and others may say we get hit by 30 like a ton of bricks.

Many of us start to see the reason for the bumpy road of our 20s. We begin to understand how and why we ended up where we are now. And, maybe for the first time, we see that we have to make corrections.

One of the first places we often look is the timeline and we judge how long it took us to accomplish certain things, probably comparing ourselves to others who did the same or better in less time.

We then likely look at the timeline ahead of us and make a judgement about how long something new, like correcting our course, might take.

But so often we don’t go after something new because

A, we didn’t get exactly what we wanted before so we think there’s no way it’ll work this time.

B, it took so long last time and it still wasn’t right.

And C, this time  we have a spouse and kids to think about before we go gallivanting around just following our dreams.

But your 30s are the perfect time to be ‘gallivanting’ towards success and happiness if you know how to capitalize on everything you’re dealing with – use your superpowers!

*We have more knowledge, experience and resources this time around.

*Instead of being pushed into education and living in the Lala Land of university life or intern life, we have a grasp of the real world like never before. Yes, this is what all that crap was preparing us for.

*Unlike your 20s, we finally have the resources. Chances are, you have a more secure job and a stable group of friends to support you if things go awry.

*You probably also have a bigger WHY than you used to. I’ve heard countless stories about how in our 20s we were ruled the desire to prove ourselves to parents, siblings, teachers, bosses and mentors.

*In our 30s, with our who gives a shit attitude, our ego is much less of what is pushing us. We have other things and other people to worry about (kids, spouse, potential spouse) and it’s their faces and their future that can inspire us to move mountains.

Of course we have to be careful not to feel the pressure; it can be a lot to handle because, yes, this is crunch time. This is really when you could make your mark and have the life of your dreams, and that can be a scary thought.

But, If you can appreciate how special and unique these gifts in our 30s are, you have a magic formula for success.

In my eyes, your thirties are the perfect time to perfect your career path or start your own business. It’s the perfect time to explore new things in all areas because you’re more comfortable trying new things.

Not to say that you are completely comfortable but, compared with your twenties, you are much wiser from your mistakes and much more capable because of your experiences and who you’ve become – the hero of your own story.

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If this all sounds like you and you’re ready to get started on a project for happiness and success in your 30s, I’d love if you’d join me for my FREE webinar on how to really use your 30s’ Superpowers to achieve your dreams NOW. Click HERE to find out more.

Or, come on over to ashewoodward.com to find out more about me, your 30s and how we can work together to get you to the success you’ve been dreaming of for all of your adult life! 

Why This Is THE Summer You’ve Been Waiting For

As summer arrives this week I feel the temptation to really let go. I just want to forget the work, the networking, the goal-achieving, and veg the F out. I want to indulge in patio life and read romantic novels by the pool.

’Tis the season for relaxation, hanging with the kiddos while they’re out of school, and indulging in maybe one too many fruity cocktails after work with friends. The sunshine and faint smell of coconut sunscreen are more than enough to distract us from work, prospecting, thinking of a promotion, or hustling in any way, am I right?

On the other hand, one thing I always say about our thirties is that it’s the perfect decade to get things done and get ahead. This is the time we actually have the means and more knowledge about the ways to be successful.

I may sound like the bearer of bad news but I’ll say it anyway: taking two months ‘off’ now is more than just laziness – it’s a wasted opportunity.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t vacay at all – we all know the importance of downtime and quality time for relationships so we don’t burn out and regret a life of consistent work when we’re on our deathbeds. But, if you’ve been struggling to get ahead for a while now and have been praying to the gods to give you a break or a head start, I have to tell you, this is it.

This is the break you’ve been searching for.

If you have a dream that you’ve been waiting to realize or put time into, this is the ‘right time’ you’ve been talking about.

When you told a friend that it wasn’t the ‘right time’ to invest or work together…

Or when you told yourself that ‘one day’ you’ll write that novel…

Or when you say that ‘some day’ you’ll have the time to give that project that will set you up financially…

Well, guess what?

The ‘right time’ is here, and here’s why:

If you’re having thoughts of playing hooky from work or from working on your side project, other people are having those thoughts too.

I don’t have stats on this, but I’d wager that at least half of your competition will be asleep this summer, indulging in their whims and giving in to temptations, giving you a huge advantage for two full months or more.

While others are taking it easy, you can take it up a notch. I know, I know, we don’t want to miss out on the fun or the tanning time. But this is a classic case of a little sacrifice now makes life easier later.

A friend told me once about how she had the choice, like her neighbour, to either work her business or work in the garden all summer. At the end of summer her business was booming. Her neighbour had a nice garden. And while gardens are pretty, they don’t pay the bills or fulfill our dreams – that is unless your business is flowers and your dream is a beautiful garden. You get the idea.

Summer often shows people that their businesses or finances aren’t where they’d like them to be. They see the vacations they want to take their families on but perhaps aren’t financially able. This means that tons of people are looking for what you have to offer. Maybe they need your app, your consulting, or even your novel to read by the pool.

Plus, marketing opportunities are everywhere. Every week is a holiday or fiesta you can join or hashtag to promote your business. And if there’s nothing happening that really speaks to you and your brand, summer itself is a great theme. I’m personally using summer as an excuse to give big bonuses and discounts on my products (stay tuned for that).

If you’re not in business for yourself but you’ve always dreamed of being an author on the side, summer is when it’s possible to find that extra downtime. We have more daylight and, therefore, more energy and more usable outdoor space. Use summer to get outside, be in the outdoor space to finally complete that novel, manifesto or for writing out your five-year plan.

If your goals are personal, like increasing your one-to-one time with your kids, this is a no-brainer. But I personally love a challenge and I think kids do too. Why not accomplish some fun goals together like, ‘Try all the ice cream stores in the city,’ or ‘Ride our bikes as far as we can and then take the bus home.’ This is not only more fun for you but it’s a way to teach your kids the fun of goal setting and accomplishment. Plus, games like this tend to be even more memorable than just going to theme parks or movies.

If your goals are spiritual, the summer weather creates the perfect calmer attitude start a meditation practice, whether you’re on the beach in the park or even longer walks through the city. You could even bring the kids along as well for the challenge; it’s never too early.

The point is, don’t make summer an excuse, make it your secret weapon.

If your’e ready to use summer to your advantage to get ahead in any area of life, let’s take action together. Get in touch to find out how personal coaching can accelerate your results -guaranteed! Inquire to apply at support@ashewoodward.com or visit ashewoodward.com for more info. Talk to you soon! – Ashe

24 Things Women Over 30 Should Wear

I love this post and the spirit behind it. No one should be able to tell another woman what she should wear.

This post is a great reminder of the beauty of diversity and all the ways it’s great to be a woman over 30. It also highlights the beauty of confidence women radiate when they own their individual style.

Inspiring!

Warning:Curves Ahead

This morning, as I was perusing my Facebook timeline, I happened upon an article that a lovely friend shared. It was entitled “24 Things Women Should Stop Wearing After Age 30”, and it triggered Maximum Eye-Rolling from everyone who took the time out to read it.

Written by Kallie Provencher for RantChic.com, this “article” (I use the term loosely) highlighted things such as “leopard print”, “graphic tees”, and “short dresses” (because “By this age, women should know it’s always better to leave something to the imagination”). Kallie, it seems, has a number of opinions on what women over 30 should and shouldn’t be doing, having also penned “30 Things Women Over 30 Shouldn’t Own” and “20 Pictures Women Over 30 Need To Stop Posting Online”. (What is this magical post-30 land where women are suddenly not allowed to do or own so many things?!)

Motivated by Kallie’s “article”, I decided to…

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Do You Really Deserve It?

I’m not sure I can think of even one movie that doesn’t prey on our love for the underdog.  We love rags to riches stories and even I, a self-proclaimed chick flick fanatic, can get wrapped up in an action movie about an unlikely hero in a thriller-action movie.

You know the drill:  we get a back story where our hero is either an ugly high school student who becomes princess of a fictional country; or, it’s an excommunicated mob member who ends up helping police save the city from his former boss.  Even though the storylines might seem a little far-fetched at first, we get to know our heroes and we’re led to see their strengths – physical or not – and we start to root for them.

Funny thing is, there are so many of us who have these same strengths and these same wild dreams, but we don’t have as much faith in ourselves.  So what is the disconnect here?

What is it about the big screen that makes us pull for the ugly duckling or the outcast, but get us out of the theatre and in our own heads and we can’t do the same for ourselves?

There is always that point in the movie where our hero questions him or herself for a moment and wonders if they really can pull off what they want to do.  In the audience we get really worried because we know the back story and how hard they’ve worked and everything that’s riding on this.  We start to feel like they deserve to win.  And just so Hollywood is sure you know who the good guy is, they’ll throw in a really good unlikeable enemy so you see the contrast.  I automatically think of The Plastics in Mean Girls.

The point is we’re pulling for our characters all the way, even though the odds are against dorky Mia Thermopolous (Anne Hathaway) becoming the beautiful and poised princess of Genovia in The Princess Diaries; or Tom Mullen (Mel Gibson), a wealthy business man, saving his son by some other way than paying the ransom in Ransom.  Okay, so these are sort of outdated examples, but they just happen to be what I watched this week – but I think that’s the point. 

This story is timeless and is probably part of the narrative going on in your head about your own life too. 

The problem in our own lives is that we are too involved in the underdog part of the story and you’re not seeing the potential – you’re not seeing clearly enough where the story goes.  On screen it all happens in a matter of about 2 hours and it’s probably around half way that you could guess that Lindsay Lohan is going to do something special and that Bruce Willis is going to save Christmas. 

You and I have had years of backstory to deal with and maybe no big success…yet. But that doesn’t mean that we don’t deserve to win. We’ve had tons of enemies – maybe not as easy to see as Hollywood makes it seem, but they’re there and we all have the power to defeat them.  We all have those surprising and specialized traits that will help us get the job done.

The trick is, we need to believe that we are the hero of our own stories, see that we can defeat all of our enemies, and see that we deserve to live happily ever after. You know your backstory better than anyone, so let your own story pull at your heartstrings and force you to believe that success is inevitable.

Think hard on this one:  What is the big success you’re going for right now and why do you deserve to win?  What surprising or unlikely traits do you have that will help you pull this off?  What movie have you watched lately that could inspire you to believe in your own hero story?

And if you have trouble putting together all the pieces of your own epic tale, get in touch for a coaching session at support@ashewoodward.com. Or find our more about how coaching can be just like that driver guy that helps Anne Hathaway find her confidence (man, I just can’t help loving that movie!) at ashewoodward.com.