It’s Been a Slice…

You know when you learn a new word and then you hear it everywhere for the next week?

Or when you think you’re pregnant, and you start seeing babies everywhere?

Well, this has been my reality for the last month. 

No no, I’m not pregnant!

The truth is that I’ve been being given numerous signs and even support on a decision to move on from this blog and newsletter.

For the last few months I’ve been working on a project called Yolopalooza. It’s an event I’m putting on here in Toronto that is largely based on my favourite topic and question that’s come out of my work here –

How can we add more fun to our lives?

This blog all started with a desire to learn more about myself and grow as a writer. Well, I feel like I’ve done a lot of that and gotten even more out of it than I could have imagined.

Because of this blog I’ve connected with so many of you around the world and gotten to know some of you more closely as my personal clients. It’s been an honour to be a part of your journey.

But I’m being pulled towards this other work, pretty loudly I must say. It’s come to me in the form of random websites, podcasts and even articles in newspapers that I never read.

I even came across some of the best advice I’ve ever gotten in my whole darn life.

So, I hope you’ll come along with me for this next part.

I’ll even share that ‘best advice ever’ at some point – probably in my first NEW post.

But if finding more fun for your life is not what you need right now and you choose to call it a day with me, that’s cool too. Let me leave you with some parting advice that is my best attempt to sum up what I’ve learned with you these last four years.
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(Whenever I get down about being too old or not old enough, I come back to this idea)

Being in your thirties is a privilege not everyone gets to experience. Sometimes it’s hard AF but, if you keep searching, you’ll eventually find answers and begin to see the greatest parts!

 

With all my love and humblest gratitude,

Ashe

 

Here’s where to find me next:

yolopalooza.com

@yolopalooza

yoloverse.wordpress.com

 

Only Crazy People Claim to See the Future, Right?

A couple of days ago, I was lucky enough to catch Jen Sincero, author of You are a Badass,  in intimate conversation right here in Toronto.

When a woman from my book club told me about the event, I couldn’t believe it. How would crowds of thousands of people fit into the bookstore? I mean, she’s crazy-famous, right? A bestselling author and life coach – people are going to be breaking the doors down!

I couldn’t wait to hear what she had to say and I desperately wanted her to sign my copy of her book because I had highlighted and flagged it up pretty good. It’s absolutely full of juicy nuggets to get you over yourself and get going. I just hoped I could strong arm my way to her.

Unfortunately, I arrived much later (and sweatier) than I had hoped but ….no worries. There were still plenty of seats and I was still able to find great seats for me and my friend.

Maybe I got the time wrong.  Nope. People had plenty of standing room too, and the doors to the bookstore remained fully in tact…

I guess I’m a little out of touch with reality being so immersed in the self-development/help/growth world that I think everyone else is too. I thought it would be like an amazing rock concert with moshing and crowd surfing. This is amazing S#*% man! My mind is blown!

All the while I could stand back and be the cool guy nodding his head like, I know man, I know. I’ve totally read the book and I’ve been down with these concepts for years, man.

Wrong.

Sincero was totally a rockstar all the way down to her great energy for her material. But she also has a great way of taking familiar concepts and adding a new perspective and energy to them. She knew exactly how to give the goods to this very lucky, intimate group. So much so that she snapped me out of my know-it-all head motions more than a few times.

My favourite riotous lick of the night was an answer to a crowd question on procrastination:

[this is a summary of Sincero’s genius answer; not verbatim]

Procrastination is fear –  a special fear laced with ideas of unattainable perfection.

Perfection as a reason to not get started on something makes no sense. If you believe that there is a perfect version of who you are or what you want to create, you’re a little nuts. Not even the Universe knows what your fully expressed self looks like, so why would you think you have any clue?

And why would you limit your future – any facet and any version of it – to your limited imagination? Creation works through us and evolves and creates our lives in ways we could never ever just imagine.

-Mind. Blown.

And just like that I feel like I can more easily say, “So long perfection, I’m so done with you.” (More easily – not totally).

Yet still, forever changed, I sat there re-evaluating every area of my life that was in the queue to be worked on in the ‘perfect’ state and at the ‘perfect’ time for the ‘perfect’ outcome.

I’m getting on all this s#*% tonight, I told myself. …Errr, right after I get my book signed.

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Just like I thought the place would be packed, I was wrong. There was a decent crowd, but it was pretty tame , which was awesome actually because I was one of the last to have my book signed and I really only waited about ten minutes.

Guess I can’t predict the future after all.

Hm.

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Avoiding bad news lately? Here’s what it could cost us all.

So the last thing you may want to read is another article, post, blog meme, tweet, headline, status about Trump, right?  BUT WAIT!

Before you ignore, hide, sigh, cancel or avoid social media, I wonder if you’ll do something for me…

Ask yourself really why avoidance is sometimes our first reaction to “bad” news.

 

I’m hearing a lot of people talking about cancelling their social media accounts lately, at least for the time being.

Is this you?

Do you feel like it’s all just too negative? Too heavy?

Do you maybe feel like you don’t know enough about politics or the situation to actually comment?
Are you sick of how all this news makes you feel (helpless, vulnerable, angry)?

When Trump was elected, I tried to stay positive, saying that maybe this will help us wake up to many problems. Looking back, this may have been a little too light-hearted as far as approaches to politics go, especially now that we’re faced with executive orders that fill us with a whole range of mostly intense emotions.

But the favour I ask of you is to consider what this avoidance attitude can mean for us all. If we avoid social media and try to ‘keep positive,’ what are we missing? I’m not talking about FOMO (fear of missing out), but the larger conversation of our times.

We’re being asked to really examine our thoughts on race and religion in particular. Can we afford to ignore what we might really be thinking, feeling or the ugly side of what we’ve been conditioned to believe?

Is there a reason Trump’s comments and actions create a stir in us?
Is something being reflected back?

I have no political background. I’d even go as far as saying it’s scary how little I really know about politics and I’m Canadian. But I still have an opinion.

And it’s this.

In the last election, Americans were faced with deciding between 2 less than desirable options. And instead of making a choice, many chose to avoid and not vote at all – in fact, around 95 million voters did not cast a vote.

Even with my limited knowledge in American politics, I know there’s more to it than that. However, we can’t ignore that the votes of 95 million people would have made a difference. Maybe the same outcome, maybe not. But it would have been a different conversation in America.

But I get it.

I mean, how many times have we all been in the same place where there are hard decisions that need to be made, but we do nothing instead?

I get it. I’ve done it. It’s just easier.

But know this: taking no action, is an action. Make no mistake – you ARE making a choice; indecision is a decision.

We may not all need to take action and march and protest. Some of us do and that’s good and important; it’s such an amazing freedom we have the right to express. But there are other ways to be heard.

We can be aware of what’s happening, have an opinion, but not let it ruin our day; not let it steal our hope; not let it leak into our mood at home or work.

And if it does, let’s agree to reflect on what these feelings mean for us and not shy away from the lessons we could learn.

How do we really feel? Angry, sad, hopeless, sexist, racist?

Right?

Wrong?

Or, it may be making us question the role of leadership completely. Who we choose to follow says a lot about us. We’re saying that we like where this leader is taking us and we share that vision.

But when we question certain decisions made by our leader, our own identity comes into question. And that can be uncomfortable. And that makes us want to hide.

If it’s all getting to be too much, take a time out. Sometimes we really nee a break from it all. But use some of that time for reflection. Get your opinions sorted, without the help of the media.

You may also find you become more reflective in other areas, or more decisive from now on. You can let the lessons from all of this leak into, or even saturate all areas of your life.

The worst thing isn’t the situation that we’re in. The very worst

would be letting it all be for nothing.

Click the link below or shoot me your thoughts at support@ashewoodward.com or start the conversation here or on the Facebook page.

…Start the conversation indeed…

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Life Goes On – After Elections and All Disappointments

This week, it goes without saying by now that the results of the American election were a shock for many. We’ve all seen the protests, the riots and heard countless commentary on the whole thing. I know we’re all a little sick of it, and hopefully, just ready to move the heck on.

While we’re still unsure of how this all will unfold, let’s remember how a few weeks ago many may have thought that Trump winning the presidency would be the absolute worst thing in the world to happen.

Beyond that we couldn’t imagine a future.

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We creatively tweeted and posted our fears.

But take a look: so far, life goes on as planned. Nothing bad has happened (..yet).

We all still went to work the next day as usual and got s#^t done.

We still came home to our families and had some quality time.

We still celebrated our freedom here in North America with Veteran’s Day and Remembrance Day here in Canada, honouring the fact that it is our freedom and democracy that was and is fought for and what allows us to vote for our leader in our respective countries.

I know that there is a lot of pessimism out there right now but I just hope that we can all see how  that even though some people’s worst fear came true, we all survived and life goes on.

If this sounds familiar, like from other areas of life where you think that there is just no hope at all, I urge you to take a closer look and find a silver lining. Find something in your situation to be grateful for and trust that everything will (eventually) be okay.

Not to mention, but Veteran’s Day/Remembrance Day should also remind us that we’ve survived worse.

If you feel like you’re looking ahead and the future is looking grim with no silver lining, we should chat. Get in touch at support@ashewoodward.com. I’d love to help you find hope again and start taking your life and success into your own hands. 

And don’t wait to grab your FREE copy of

The Thirtysomething’s Guide to Successful Goal-making HERE

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How Hesitation Can Lead to Your Next Big Break

We’ve all done it: we see something we want to do and we get really excited. We start to dream of all the ways this is a great opportunity and we paint the picture of how it will be amazing and change our life for the better.

Then, it happens – we hesitate. We think, ‘I have to sleep on it,’ or ‘I’ll just put a reminder in my phone and come back to it when I have the time and/or money.’

But have you ever noticed that whenever you come back to the idea (if you even do), it’s never as good as it was when you first heard it, when you first felt that spark of energy?

Somehow, the initial inspiration and motivation isn’t there anymore and you may even wonder why you were so excited in the first place.

They say, ‘He who hesitates is lost’. But to be clear, I’d rather say, ‘he who hesitates has lost.’ When we hesitate, we lose out and we’re left to only kick ourselves later, wondering if we’ll ever get the opportunity again.

Depending on what it is, we may not get another shot at all. And, if we leave it too long, we may miss the momentum the original opportunity came with.

Think of a surfer and how she has chooses her moment. She has to seize the moment as soon as she sees that awesome wave lifting up and being fit to surf. If she hesitates, she’ll never get in there to feel the pure, impeccable energy and momentum that allows her to superbly ride the wave full out.

When she goes for it and grabs the wave without a moment to wonder or second guess herself, she can have the ride of her life. She flows with the wave, not against it and she feels the ocean pushing her, carrying her, making it all so easy.

We all need to do the same when opportunity knocks. Grab whoever is knocking, knowing they were sent there just for you. Trust your gut when you feel that excitement about something and you start to dream big things, and jump in. 

Hesitation is a great tool to guide your actions towards your next big break. When you feel that good energy and excitement, it means it’s something big and something that could be great for you. In these moments, The Universe and Her energy are pushing you, carrying you and there to hep you make your success all so easy.

I’m not saying that you should go for everything that’s put in front of you, but if you’re the least bit curious about something, you owe it to yourself and the opportunity to find out if it’s right. If it isn’t, fine. You can always bail out if it isn’t working. But by practicing saying ‘yes,’ you start the momentum for more doors to open for you.

So, if there’s anything on your to do list right now, stop putting it off.

If it’s really something you don’t want to do, take it off the list and move on. We also need to constantly make space for the better opportunities to flow in.

Secondly, mind your hesitations. If you are presented with an opportunity – seize it! Try on the hat of a spontaneity this week and see what else opens up for you.

The Universe likes action and will send you more and more energy when you take quick action.

Plus, money is energy too – dollars in exchange for energy in a beautiful flow. Get yourself into that flow of quick action and quick return. That’s the sweet spot that starts with no hesitation.

Try it for one week – no hesitation. And let me know how it goes in the comments or on Facebook.

If you’re ready to take truly inspired and quick action to bring in more energy and success, go to ashewoodward.com or get in touch for more information on Success Coaching at support@ashewoodward.com.

What are you waiting for?

If you are chewing on something right now or you’re scared to get started on something you really want to do, you have to hear this story about my client and friend, Mary.

I met Mary in December when she was looking for a coach to help her with changing careers.  She had recently been laid off and was more interested in getting into something new, rather than wait around for her company to give her a call back when their numbers were better.

I was really excited to work with her because she was so passionate and creative and she seemed so ready to start the process – she was even inspiring me with her energy!  But when I proposed that we get started right away, I could see her taking a step back and I braced myself for the usual spiel:  no time or money right now.

Sure, it was Christmastime and the end of the year, which really does strap us all for cash and extra time, but I urged her to strike while her motivation was up.

In the end, Mary thought it would be better to start fresh in the new year and we’d talk then.  Well, between December and the end of January her job called her back.  With bills to pay and Christmastime credit card dues to pay off, she accepted her job back and put her ideas on the back burner.

Mary just recently called me up and wanted to talk. 

After two months of being back at her job, she has remembered what passion she had at the end of the year and she’s realized that she has to do something with her home business idea.

I told Mary, I’m not here to say I told you so but…

And I don’t tell you this to be a sassy know-it-all… I tell you this because I have been there myself too many times and I know what happens when I think too much about all the ins and outs of an opportunity.  I ignore my excitement, calling it a phase or momentary adrenaline that will surely pass.  And, like Mary, I rationalize and blame time and money for not being in enough supply. 

I think we all do this. But in the end, we just delay the inevitable because eventually the desire to do something can’t be quenched any longer with excuses.  So all we do is waste time when we could have been getting started and be further ahead right now.

Can you imagine a time when time and money will both align perfectly for you?  How long will you be waiting for this so you can then make a decision that would greatly benefit your life, your well-being and your happiness?  In my experience, a perfect time doesn’t exist.  The only perfect time is when you are ready to move forward and not let any obstacle stop you from your dream and living to your fullest potential.

So say ‘yes!’ to that opportunity, whatever it is.  Stop the excuses!  Try it once and you’ll be hooked. There really is no feeling like taking a risk for the benefit of your success and happiness.

What are you waiting for right now?  What have you put to the side because of time and money not being ‘right’.  Share on the Facebook community page.

If you’re ready to take a risk, you can play it smart by having a coach guide you into the best decisions and even help you with time management and making more money even faster!  Check out what’s possible for you at ashewoodward.com.