Only Crazy People Claim to See the Future, Right?

A couple of days ago, I was lucky enough to catch Jen Sincero, author of You are a Badass,  in intimate conversation right here in Toronto.

When a woman from my book club told me about the event, I couldn’t believe it. How would crowds of thousands of people fit into the bookstore? I mean, she’s crazy-famous, right? A bestselling author and life coach – people are going to be breaking the doors down!

I couldn’t wait to hear what she had to say and I desperately wanted her to sign my copy of her book because I had highlighted and flagged it up pretty good. It’s absolutely full of juicy nuggets to get you over yourself and get going. I just hoped I could strong arm my way to her.

Unfortunately, I arrived much later (and sweatier) than I had hoped but ….no worries. There were still plenty of seats and I was still able to find great seats for me and my friend.

Maybe I got the time wrong.  Nope. People had plenty of standing room too, and the doors to the bookstore remained fully in tact…

I guess I’m a little out of touch with reality being so immersed in the self-development/help/growth world that I think everyone else is too. I thought it would be like an amazing rock concert with moshing and crowd surfing. This is amazing S#*% man! My mind is blown!

All the while I could stand back and be the cool guy nodding his head like, I know man, I know. I’ve totally read the book and I’ve been down with these concepts for years, man.

Wrong.

Sincero was totally a rockstar all the way down to her great energy for her material. But she also has a great way of taking familiar concepts and adding a new perspective and energy to them. She knew exactly how to give the goods to this very lucky, intimate group. So much so that she snapped me out of my know-it-all head motions more than a few times.

My favourite riotous lick of the night was an answer to a crowd question on procrastination:

[this is a summary of Sincero’s genius answer; not verbatim]

Procrastination is fear –  a special fear laced with ideas of unattainable perfection.

Perfection as a reason to not get started on something makes no sense. If you believe that there is a perfect version of who you are or what you want to create, you’re a little nuts. Not even the Universe knows what your fully expressed self looks like, so why would you think you have any clue?

And why would you limit your future – any facet and any version of it – to your limited imagination? Creation works through us and evolves and creates our lives in ways we could never ever just imagine.

-Mind. Blown.

And just like that I feel like I can more easily say, “So long perfection, I’m so done with you.” (More easily – not totally).

Yet still, forever changed, I sat there re-evaluating every area of my life that was in the queue to be worked on in the ‘perfect’ state and at the ‘perfect’ time for the ‘perfect’ outcome.

I’m getting on all this s#*% tonight, I told myself. …Errr, right after I get my book signed.

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Just like I thought the place would be packed, I was wrong. There was a decent crowd, but it was pretty tame , which was awesome actually because I was one of the last to have my book signed and I really only waited about ten minutes.

Guess I can’t predict the future after all.

Hm.

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Create Negativity for a Beautiful Life?

 

As some of us are gearing up for the holiday season, we are all pretty busy but also looking forward to maybe a little downtime before the new year.

I hope you’re finding time for reflection and thinking big for yourself in this next phase. Personally, 2016 was a building year for me – I met a lot of awesome people, made a bunch of new friends, and learned a heck of a lot about myself and business in general.

I’m soooo ready to take what I’ve learned and create some fantastic stuff in 2017 (and I can’t wait to share it all with you-soon!)

But right now, I too am in busy busy mode: wrapping gifts and wrapping up with clients for the year (see what I did there, lol!).

However, I’ve also left an nice meaty, chewy chunk of space, between Christmas and New Year’s Eve to just… BE.

And, man, it’s hard to turn off sometimes. It’s become a world where it feels like if you’re not online, you’re off your rocker.

But I’m gonna try, cuz I need some space.

Maybe for you it’s not about a social media fast – maybe it’s something like going on a complain fast, or just taking some alone time for taking up a new hobby, just to challenge your brain in a different way.

The idea is that you’re creating some negative space, just like a painting.

For those of us who aren’t artists, it’s probably been a long time since we’ve heard any art theory terminology. So, just as a refresher…

Negative space is the non-painted or non-object area of a piece of art. It should always be taken into account when observing a piece because it can be as interesting as the piece itself or the painted portion itself. In other words, it’s not as negative as it sounds – it’s actually a really good, and really important part of creation.

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And, of course, I’m gonna say that it’s the same in life.

The part where you’re being creative, planning your strategies for success, taking action, celebrating achievements, raising kids, paying bills etc. is all the positive space – the obvious stuff that everyone sees.

In life, using your negative space is more like creating something other than your main ambitions to colour and fill in your life, all the way to the edges.

It’s the life you lead maybe when no one is watching and the life that you’re doing and not getting paid for. It might be some of the best stuff, actually.

So where in your life have you left space for the best stuff?

Where is the breathing room and the space to just BE?

Where have you created a beautiful space that makes you feel even more amazing?

This can be anything you conceive it to be, from your environment and the people you choose to keep around you, to the space you leave on your calendar for ‘movie and a pizza’ night.

Because, while it’s great to have a full calendar, it’s also important to leave some space to allow what you’ve created to stand on its own and be remarkable.

Without downtime and a step back at what you’ve done, it’s hard to see what amazingness you’re doing.

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And while it may seem important to ‘get out there’ and surround yourself with lots of people until you find ‘the one,’ or ‘the perfect client,’ it’s also important to be surrounded by great people that light you up.

That’s the job of the negative space – to highlight the positive.
(And, yes, that works for a lot of other areas in life too – cool, huh?)

So this year, when you’re reflecting on your 2016 and looking into 2017, ask yourself where can you see room to beautify your negative space and make it as interesting as the positive.

Where can you surround yourself with more love and beauty, more relaxation?

Where can you weed out some bad notches that never seem to bring out the best in you?

I’d love to know more about how you’re clearing your space and surrounding yourself with the more interesting and beautiful in this upcoming year. So leave a comment below or on the Facebook page.

And speaking of which…

I will be leaving some negative space between now and the New Year to refresh and recharge. I will still be keeping in touch with a weekly post and you can find me on Facebook and Twitter but the blog will resume in January 2017.

Thank you so much for reading this year, thirtysomeone. I love and appreciate all of your support and I’m honoured to be part of your crazy-amazing journey through your thirties.

Now, let’s cheers to this year and get ready for even bigger and better things in 2017.

Cheers!

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As always, you can find out more about me and what I do at ashewoodward.com. And to help you make solid goals for 2017, got to ashewoodward.com/downloadables to get your copy of The Thirtysomething’s Guide to Successful Goalmaking. It’s YOUR guide to a great year ahead.

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