What I Did When I Was Sick of Myself

Just a little over a month ago I took a hard look at schedule and my stress level and decided to do something (actually a bunch of things) about it.

I thought it was only how I was scheduling my time but as I looked at it more closely, so much more disgusting puss oozed out of the cracks of my routine.

So ya, I stopped the blog for a while, re-did my website, started a new yoga routine and even started getting up earlier to meditate longer. Oh ya, and I also got serious about eating a strict vegan diet. I call this an ‘Overhaul’ in the Do-over ebook and, let me tell ya, it’s not for the faint of heart!

Thinking I’m indestructible because I know all the strategies and tools that go into making change, I just went for it – full on.

Not smart.

At first I was tired, cranky, uninspired and I knew so many fibres of my being were being challenged and resisting all this change. Then, all I felt like doing was complaining, sleeping, and eating potato chips and wine for dinner – Hey, it’s vegan, right?

I would try to get up early to meditate but I felt so rotten I ended up skipping it all together and hitting the snooze button for another precious twenty-five minutes. Seeing how crap I was at change, it was hard to have faith but I knew I had to keep trying.

Maybe tomorrow, maybe tomorrow. I just prayed for it to be temporary and hope that it was just the initial adjustment stage.

-Weeks later now I’m like, phew!

As usual, the Universe thankfully has stepped in and is now fully supporting my desires once again. Why did I ever doubt her?!

Since finally crawling out from underneath the covers on consecutive mornings I have full-out and gigantically been stating that I needed to change and up my game. And finally, Timing and Coincidence have ushered in a slew of new players into my life – most of whom I’d call “big-time.”

In the last few weeks I’ve met and connected with people who are on a level I didn’t know existed. I thought I was being ballzy, but these people are here to show me how to really get into the game – stand for my business, myself, my peeps and clients.

Not only that but I seem to be finding better than average blogs and websites, and being directed to much better events and richer, vibrant and more flavourful places for a good time.

All of these things are on the outside of me but I’m embracing them, using them as the key to digging deeper in myself and bringing more of myself to the “Grown-up table”.

And I’m thinking of you today. I’m standing up for you and to you by asking: Are you settling for less in your life?  Have you checked in lately on your standards? Is it possible you’ve let things slide and pass for just okay because you’ve lost faith that things           can be better?

If it’s just not enough, I’d love to show you how to up your game, your vibration and your whole entire gigantic and beautiful life…and stick with it!

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What Your Aching Back and Aching Banking Account Have in Common: 4 Big Tips to Heal Your Money Chakra

In the world of chakras and energy healing there’s a theory that pain in the body reflects certain chakras that are out of balance. It may sounds like a lot of woo-woo mumbo jumbo, but I have first-hand experience of this in action!

In addition to a regular quiet meditation practice, I also rely heavily on exercise as a way to meditate as well because it has a similar power to clear my monkey brain and keep stress in check.

When I jog or lift weights, I zone out just enough to focus only on my body and my breathing. My work and problems don’t come with me; there’s really no place for them when my heart rate is up, sweat is tickling down my temples and I’m focused on keeping a pace.

Especially when I’m outside getting hot and sweaty, getting my legs heated up, I know I’m charging up my root chakra. And, just in case you’re not familiar with what the heck that means, here’s a little woo-woo summary:

The root chakra or 1st chakra is called Muladhara and it’s located at the base of the spine. It connects us to our base needs and it rules the lower back, legs and feet.

You might notice the word, mula in there, and I can’t be sure of this, but this might be where the slang term for money came from. Technically mula means root in Sanskrit. But for me, it’s convenient for remembering the Sanskrit name because this is the chakra that’s responsible for your finances and your relationship with money.

But for the past few months, something else has had my attention during my morning-run meditation – my back. In November of last year I started to notice a lot of pain in my lower back when I bent over to brush my teeth or grab anything from the fridge – basically anything at a 90 degree angle has been complete agony.

Thinking that I’m pretty athletic and awesome, I thought I could probably just stretch more or do more yoga to fix it. Nine months later, after taking my yoga routine up a few notches and stretching to my limits, I still can’t lift a jar of pickles out of the fridge for a tuna sandwich.

And, interestingly, it was around November that a number of ‘surprise’ financial issues came up and really shook my money and abundance mindset.

Finally, last week, I gave in and saw a professional – my chiropractor, who also has a penchant for Eastern medicine and philosophies as well. According to Dr. Peter,I have compacted my lower back area and that means “No running.”

“Like, at all?”

“Nope. None,” said Dr. Peter.

I thought I might cry.

“Can I rollerblade?”

He thought for a second.

“Yes.”

So, with my spirits slightly dampened last weekend, I went rollerblading along the beach boardwalk here in Toronto for the first time in ages. It was a perfect day for it and a lot of people were out taking advantage of the beautiful day.

When I was finished I sat on a bench to take my skates off just as a family was walking by. The two kids were marvelling at one of the impressive beach houses on the corner. It’s a four-story marvel with chic glass balconies at each level. Plus, when you look al the way up to the fourth level, you can see just enough of the great roof-top patio with a barbecue.

“I love that house mom. I wish I lived there,” said the little girl.

“Yes, me too,” said the mom. “But y’know, that person probably has to work all the time to afford it.”

Boom. I heard the mic drop and I actually felt a small spasm in my back.

Now maybe I’ve been too focused on my own money issues lately, but in a flash I saw that little girl’s relationship to money become one of struggle instead of ease and fun.

I saw that girl jogging on the beach in her twenties, longing for a beautiful beach house but knowing she could never work that hard. I saw her struggle with back problems, knee injuries and foot fungus and never see the connection.

I wanted to scream, “How dare you!” at the mother, but I’m not crazy, and I don’t pretend to know anything about raising kids. But I do know that our upbringing and the way our parents look at money can really affect our own mindset.

Yet, there’s still a chance that the little girl won’t take that on. She might learn about chakras just in time. Hopefully she’ll even find Dr. Peter – my miracle worker who, as he’s working his magic, is also simultaneously restoring my faith in my ability to attract money and abundance.

In other words, it’s working already and I’m now kicking myself for waiting this long to give it my attention.

The moral of the story is something I hope you can take on board. If you’re having issues with your finances or you’d like to increase the flow of money into your life, look at your root chakra. If it feels okay, that’s awesome, but you can still do more to fire it up! Who doesn’t want more abundance, right?

Here are just 3 ways to fire up your money centre and increase abundance but you can get the full list of 10 ways HERE.

  1. Hip circles. Easily done and a good way to shake it all out after being in your                          office chair all day.
  2. Kegels. Yep, not just for new moms anymore. A strong pelvis means a fortress for your dolla-dolla bills!
  3. Dance – like really dirty dance- and shake those hips! Thrust the pelvis! Remember that Elvis made millions by doing this.
  4. Connect to the ultimate root – the earth. Get your bare feet in the grass or in the sand. Your feet have a ton of nerves that can pull root energy from the earth. Read more about how this works from a previous ARTICLE.

Give these tips a try AND check out the FULL TOP 10 LIST HERE and let me know how it goes on the Facebook page!

And for more information on how to make more money and have a more balanced life in the crazy world of our 30s, get in touch at support@ashewoodward.com and check out ashewoodward.com.

picture from yogiapproved.com

What’s Really Up With 2-Day Hangovers (And How You Can Really Avoid Them)

Twenty-somethings may not believe it but if you’re in your thirties or past, you know what I mean when I say, “Beware the 2-day hangover.”

It’s summer time and that means lots of parties, fun, laughs, drinks and, of course, hangovers.

My first two-day hangover was my thirty-first birthday party. I thought I had avoided the legendary tales when my thirtieth came and went and I had bounced back pretty well. But alas, 31, and I was two days recovering from a night of drinking that wasn’t even anything to write home about.

If you happen to be one of the lucky ones, let me draw you a picture: The first day is the feeling we all know – massive headache and cravings for greasy food. Maybe a little vomiting again, if it all didn’t come up overnight. Then, the whole rest of the day feels off and you’re just a little more than a bit nauseated even by the evening. You regret everything.

And then the next day. You still feel off somehow and there’s a dull headache in the background. You still don’t have you’re regular appetite back, maybe you haven’t caught up on the sleep you missed, and memories of two nights ago start to emerge and, even more, you regret everything.

But what’s really going on here? Why are our thirty-year-old bodies not as able to bounce back from a crazy all-nighter as our twenty-something counterparts?

Well, for one, we may not be as avid drinkers as we once were. Aside from maybe that week-long, all-inclusive beach vacay once a year, when was the last time you drank to the ultimate edge of consciousness for more than two days in a row? When was the last time you celebrated spring break all week and forgot your name? Hopefully not recently, for the sake of your (ahem) aging body.

And, as you may have noticed (as I certainly have), a lot begins to change in our bodies once we turn thirty. In our thirties, our metabolism begins to slow down, which keeps the alcohol in our systems for a longer time. More specifically, the enzymes in our system that help metabolize alcohol, specifically alcohol dehydrogenase, are in shorter supply. Basically, our biology is against us and all we can do it be a little more patient.

Also, thanks to this slower metabolism, we tend to have a higher body fat percentage as we get older. Women in general have a higher body fat percentage which is why women generally tend to get tipsy from less alcohol. Our body fat percentage, not to be confused with our weight, also plays a role in how quickly we get drunk overall and how quickly it leaves our systems the next day.

Lastly, in our thirties we’re less likely to have the luxury of nursing our hangovers in our parents’ dark basement all day. We have more responsibilities like jobs, spouses and kids that need our attention. When we’re required to get up and be a grown-up no matter how we feel, sometimes our bodies simply don’t have a chance to recover.

So if you’re not quite in your thirties yet or you’ve just joined the club and haven’t yet had the pleasure, I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news that this is a coming attraction.

On the bright side you now know more about what’s happening to your body and you can try to make better judgement calls about the alcohol you consume this summer.

The biggest positive here is that there are ways to reduce the hangover time:  Stay hydrated in general, not just on party night, but always. This combats alcohol’s dehydrating abilities and can also help to reduce your body fat percentage overall.

So drink up this summer, thirtysomeones, (water too).

Cheers!

Have questions about how to be at your best in your thirties? Get in touch for a chat about how personal coaching can help. Find out more at ashewoodward.com.

Some information for this article was reviewed at the following websites:

Women’s Health Online

The Wall Street Journal

After 30 Physiology: What Everyone is Really Saying About Your Mom/Dad Bod

In your teens or twenties, did you ever think about what life would be like when you turned 30? Did it seem old? Did you ever make a list of things you wanted to accomplish before you got there?

You wouldn’t be alone.

It seems that every day I meet someone who can tell me about their, ‘Before 30 Bucket List,’ or they can describe exactly what they used to think their thirties would look like – old and boring more often than not (*sigh).

But why 30? How did 30 become the deadline and cutoff?

I like to say that it’s for two reasons, really. First, society really looks at twenty-somethings as youthful. I usually hate the ‘blame society’ argument but this time we know it’s true since we see them as the standard for beauty everywhere. These days it’s even exacerbated by Millennials, who are projected to establish what’s cutting edge for the next several decades.

Thirty-somethings are used as the standard for settling down. If you’ve ever seen a chick flick, we’re the stage when anyone who is still single, must be clumsy, frazzled and working her butt off to remedy that.

What’s more is that outside of J-Lo’s filmography, like in TV commercials for example, we’re portrayed as being busy-bodies who are establishing families and solidifying careers – nothing too glamorous either.

All over TV and film, women are commonly said to lose sexual appeal after 30. And the rub is that if you don’t find Mr.Right before 30, it’s less likely that you’ll ever find love and be able to live out your destiny.

Athletes over 30 are often singled out and remarks are commonly made in reference to their worth since they’re no longer in their prime.

Mini-skirts are apparently a no-no.

Kids are mandatory and the questions about if you are having them soon or not become fair game.

As angry as we could be at the media for this portrayal, doctors and scientists are also against us, supporting these sociological findings by adding that more not so glamorous stuff that is happening to us physiologically after 30: We’re told to expect a decrease in muscle mass, lower fertility, and a slower metabolism – sure signs that after 30 it’s literally downhill.

But just as our bodies begin to betray us, we begin to feel more comfortable in our aging skin and get a lot closer to who we are and who we want to be. So we may be losing the outer battle but the inner growth is incredible and can be extremely rewarding.

So much for having it all, you say?

Not so fast.

Just because the media, society, our bodies, our doctors, and science are against us, doesn’t mean we’re going to give up…

…does it?

That’s the underlying message we may often miss in those cheesy chick flicks – the girl has everything against her but she doesn’t give up and she ends up getting it all.

Adversity makes us tougher by giving us something to fight against. And while we may lose the battle on aging, there’s still room to wage war on perceptions that over 30 means over the hill.

I don’t know about you, but I’m okay with Mother Nature’s brand of aging. I only get a little prickly when the media or anyone else tries to do it for her.

Wanna do your part to dispel the myth?

Don’t make 30 a cutoff for when your life stopped being cool and fun!

Take care and respect your one and only body – mom/dad bod and all.

Do your best not to sigh when you tell someone your age…

You may be sick of hearing the phrase, Own it but it’s really the best we’ve got. Plus, it’s likely to stick since in our thirties, our confidence can really soar if we let it.

Get in touch if you’re ready to let your confidence soar and lead you to great success!support@ashewoodward.com and ashewoodward.com for more information.