What the hell are we doing? The ‘over 30’ question.

Do we know what we’re doing?

A lot of us will play it safe and say, ‘maybe – sometimes.’

But most will say that we feel like we have absolutely no clue what we’re doing, where we’re going, or who we truly are most of the time.

And our generation? What are we really creating? Everyone says we’re lazy and entitled, half-assers.

But is that really us?

Most importantly, I wonder if we don’t give the best answers because we actually don’t know the answer – or worse – we’re afraid of giving the wrong answer.

Or, more likely, we’re afraid to give the true answer. That one particularly hits home with me because I check this lame box every time I ask myself this question.

But that crap stops now.

Last year, if I met you on the street and you asked me what I’m doing with my life, I would give you my rehearsed answer about why I do what I do and that I really really want to help people.

But the real answer? No. I’d never say that.

It might be too arrogant.

Too crazy and outlandish.

Too much.

The real answer, if you must know, is that I don’t want to help people – I just want to shake up this conversation and get to the bottom of the millennial question, where that leaves GenX, and if adulting really is as hard as Grumpy Cat says.

But I don’t wake up and say, “I’m going to help people today.”

I usually think, “Hey, that pisses me off. I bet it pisses everyone else off too. I’m going to think on that, write what I think, and let people know that other people are pissed off along with them. And, because we’re all in a lot of pain and feeling pretty lost, my words will probably end up helping people.” Probably.

I have no intentions of creating a complain forum or create a bubble of negativity, but I do want to ease the anxiety and pain we’re all feeling by bringing up things that we are all dying to change and reform.

I’ve been at this for a while and I know that getting it all out there brings hope, because it means that people hear it and then, they might listen. Probably.

But can you imagine if that’s what I said to you if we just met?

I think you’d be stunned at first, but you’d also be really interested in what I was talking about, wouldn’t you?

Wouldn’t I be really interested in what you’re doing with your life if you really told me the whole, dirty truth about what you do and why?

Instead of saying, “I’m in IT,” you’d tell me that you are crazy-obsessed with numbers and data and you have a company that uses some seriously smart and sometimes creative and sneaky ways to connect the two things together so companies can sell more of the right things to the right people and you get paid for it.

I met this very IT guy yesterday. He said he’s in IT and works with data configurations and statistics. After a couple of beers, I found out he was almost solely responsible for the failure of Target in Canada.

WHAT? Now you have my attention.

As soon as the table started asking him a slew of questions about what happened, he came out of his shell and that passion for numbers just beamed from him.

I had to tell him later about the change we all saw and that I was just sitting there thinking, “Alright! Now you sound like you’re a fired up person I want to talk to.  Sure, you made a huge, costly mistake, but that shows that you’re playing really big and I’m all ears. I see that you are out there – doing and being.”

And this is just assuming that we only talk about your career.

What if I said, don’t talk about your career and answer the question: “What are you doing with your life?”

What would you say?

And what would the truth actually be?


I have no interest this year in talking about resolutions and goals and fresh starts and all that.

I’m done.

My resolution, if I even really have one, is that I’m done putting out daily, sappy quotes and memes trimmed in gold and pink (but I still love turquoise, so bear with me).

But I’m done being cute or cuddly so that this journey seems less scary. Being optimistic is one thing, but the reality is that we’ve got some dark and dirty shadows lurking in our beliefs, our actions and our potential.

Shit’s about to get real.

I don’t know about you but I’m ready to be crazy-honest, and get down and dirty with the stuff that is really making us tick – the stuff that fires us up.

I’m ready for so much more when it comes to designing not only my own life but the legacy of my generation. I’m done with people telling me that my generation is lazy and entitled and lost!

And if that really is true, not only do I want to talk about why, but I want to get to the bottom of all that and do it better.

So thank you for sticking with me in 2016 – I’m grateful for each and every reader. But you have to make a choice about whether you’re ready for a more intense journey this year. And if you say YES and stick with me I promise to get down and dirty with our bad, adult selves more than ever to uncover, discover, unravel what the f*#$ is going on with people right now.

But first you need to truthfully answer the question: What are we doing? Truthfully.

Start here:

Where are you playing half-assed?

Do you know what you want?

Do you still know how to really love? Even yourself?

What do you want our generation to stand for?

Be brave and share in the blog comments or with the community on Facebook.

And share this challenge withe someone you know. The more thoughts on this, the merrier.

I can’t wait to hear what you think.



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