Why This Is THE Summer You’ve Been Waiting For

As summer arrives this week I feel the temptation to really let go. I just want to forget the work, the networking, the goal-achieving, and veg the F out. I want to indulge in patio life and read romantic novels by the pool.

’Tis the season for relaxation, hanging with the kiddos while they’re out of school, and indulging in maybe one too many fruity cocktails after work with friends. The sunshine and faint smell of coconut sunscreen are more than enough to distract us from work, prospecting, thinking of a promotion, or hustling in any way, am I right?

On the other hand, one thing I always say about our thirties is that it’s the perfect decade to get things done and get ahead. This is the time we actually have the means and more knowledge about the ways to be successful.

I may sound like the bearer of bad news but I’ll say it anyway: taking two months ‘off’ now is more than just laziness – it’s a wasted opportunity.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t vacay at all – we all know the importance of downtime and quality time for relationships so we don’t burn out and regret a life of consistent work when we’re on our deathbeds. But, if you’ve been struggling to get ahead for a while now and have been praying to the gods to give you a break or a head start, I have to tell you, this is it.

This is the break you’ve been searching for.

If you have a dream that you’ve been waiting to realize or put time into, this is the ‘right time’ you’ve been talking about.

When you told a friend that it wasn’t the ‘right time’ to invest or work together…

Or when you told yourself that ‘one day’ you’ll write that novel…

Or when you say that ‘some day’ you’ll have the time to give that project that will set you up financially…

Well, guess what?

The ‘right time’ is here, and here’s why:

If you’re having thoughts of playing hooky from work or from working on your side project, other people are having those thoughts too.

I don’t have stats on this, but I’d wager that at least half of your competition will be asleep this summer, indulging in their whims and giving in to temptations, giving you a huge advantage for two full months or more.

While others are taking it easy, you can take it up a notch. I know, I know, we don’t want to miss out on the fun or the tanning time. But this is a classic case of a little sacrifice now makes life easier later.

A friend told me once about how she had the choice, like her neighbour, to either work her business or work in the garden all summer. At the end of summer her business was booming. Her neighbour had a nice garden. And while gardens are pretty, they don’t pay the bills or fulfill our dreams – that is unless your business is flowers and your dream is a beautiful garden. You get the idea.

Summer often shows people that their businesses or finances aren’t where they’d like them to be. They see the vacations they want to take their families on but perhaps aren’t financially able. This means that tons of people are looking for what you have to offer. Maybe they need your app, your consulting, or even your novel to read by the pool.

Plus, marketing opportunities are everywhere. Every week is a holiday or fiesta you can join or hashtag to promote your business. And if there’s nothing happening that really speaks to you and your brand, summer itself is a great theme. I’m personally using summer as an excuse to give big bonuses and discounts on my products (stay tuned for that).

If you’re not in business for yourself but you’ve always dreamed of being an author on the side, summer is when it’s possible to find that extra downtime. We have more daylight and, therefore, more energy and more usable outdoor space. Use summer to get outside, be in the outdoor space to finally complete that novel, manifesto or for writing out your five-year plan.

If your goals are personal, like increasing your one-to-one time with your kids, this is a no-brainer. But I personally love a challenge and I think kids do too. Why not accomplish some fun goals together like, ‘Try all the ice cream stores in the city,’ or ‘Ride our bikes as far as we can and then take the bus home.’ This is not only more fun for you but it’s a way to teach your kids the fun of goal setting and accomplishment. Plus, games like this tend to be even more memorable than just going to theme parks or movies.

If your goals are spiritual, the summer weather creates the perfect calmer attitude start a meditation practice, whether you’re on the beach in the park or even longer walks through the city. You could even bring the kids along as well for the challenge; it’s never too early.

The point is, don’t make summer an excuse, make it your secret weapon.

If your’e ready to use summer to your advantage to get ahead in any area of life, let’s take action together. Get in touch to find out how personal coaching can accelerate your results -guaranteed! Inquire to apply at support@ashewoodward.com or visit ashewoodward.com for more info. Talk to you soon! – Ashe

After 30 Physiology: What Everyone is Really Saying About Your Mom/Dad Bod

In your teens or twenties, did you ever think about what life would be like when you turned 30? Did it seem old? Did you ever make a list of things you wanted to accomplish before you got there?

You wouldn’t be alone.

It seems that every day I meet someone who can tell me about their, ‘Before 30 Bucket List,’ or they can describe exactly what they used to think their thirties would look like – old and boring more often than not (*sigh).

But why 30? How did 30 become the deadline and cutoff?

I like to say that it’s for two reasons, really. First, society really looks at twenty-somethings as youthful. I usually hate the ‘blame society’ argument but this time we know it’s true since we see them as the standard for beauty everywhere. These days it’s even exacerbated by Millennials, who are projected to establish what’s cutting edge for the next several decades.

Thirty-somethings are used as the standard for settling down. If you’ve ever seen a chick flick, we’re the stage when anyone who is still single, must be clumsy, frazzled and working her butt off to remedy that.

What’s more is that outside of J-Lo’s filmography, like in TV commercials for example, we’re portrayed as being busy-bodies who are establishing families and solidifying careers – nothing too glamorous either.

All over TV and film, women are commonly said to lose sexual appeal after 30. And the rub is that if you don’t find Mr.Right before 30, it’s less likely that you’ll ever find love and be able to live out your destiny.

Athletes over 30 are often singled out and remarks are commonly made in reference to their worth since they’re no longer in their prime.

Mini-skirts are apparently a no-no.

Kids are mandatory and the questions about if you are having them soon or not become fair game.

As angry as we could be at the media for this portrayal, doctors and scientists are also against us, supporting these sociological findings by adding that more not so glamorous stuff that is happening to us physiologically after 30: We’re told to expect a decrease in muscle mass, lower fertility, and a slower metabolism – sure signs that after 30 it’s literally downhill.

But just as our bodies begin to betray us, we begin to feel more comfortable in our aging skin and get a lot closer to who we are and who we want to be. So we may be losing the outer battle but the inner growth is incredible and can be extremely rewarding.

So much for having it all, you say?

Not so fast.

Just because the media, society, our bodies, our doctors, and science are against us, doesn’t mean we’re going to give up…

…does it?

That’s the underlying message we may often miss in those cheesy chick flicks – the girl has everything against her but she doesn’t give up and she ends up getting it all.

Adversity makes us tougher by giving us something to fight against. And while we may lose the battle on aging, there’s still room to wage war on perceptions that over 30 means over the hill.

I don’t know about you, but I’m okay with Mother Nature’s brand of aging. I only get a little prickly when the media or anyone else tries to do it for her.

Wanna do your part to dispel the myth?

Don’t make 30 a cutoff for when your life stopped being cool and fun!

Take care and respect your one and only body – mom/dad bod and all.

Do your best not to sigh when you tell someone your age…

You may be sick of hearing the phrase, Own it but it’s really the best we’ve got. Plus, it’s likely to stick since in our thirties, our confidence can really soar if we let it.

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24 Things Women Over 30 Should Wear

I love this post and the spirit behind it. No one should be able to tell another woman what she should wear.

This post is a great reminder of the beauty of diversity and all the ways it’s great to be a woman over 30. It also highlights the beauty of confidence women radiate when they own their individual style.

Inspiring!

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This morning, as I was perusing my Facebook timeline, I happened upon an article that a lovely friend shared. It was entitled “24 Things Women Should Stop Wearing After Age 30”, and it triggered Maximum Eye-Rolling from everyone who took the time out to read it.

Written by Kallie Provencher for RantChic.com, this “article” (I use the term loosely) highlighted things such as “leopard print”, “graphic tees”, and “short dresses” (because “By this age, women should know it’s always better to leave something to the imagination”). Kallie, it seems, has a number of opinions on what women over 30 should and shouldn’t be doing, having also penned “30 Things Women Over 30 Shouldn’t Own” and “20 Pictures Women Over 30 Need To Stop Posting Online”. (What is this magical post-30 land where women are suddenly not allowed to do or own so many things?!)

Motivated by Kallie’s “article”, I decided to…

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How Hesitation Can Lead to Your Next Big Break

We’ve all done it: we see something we want to do and we get really excited. We start to dream of all the ways this is a great opportunity and we paint the picture of how it will be amazing and change our life for the better.

Then, it happens – we hesitate. We think, ‘I have to sleep on it,’ or ‘I’ll just put a reminder in my phone and come back to it when I have the time and/or money.’

But have you ever noticed that whenever you come back to the idea (if you even do), it’s never as good as it was when you first heard it, when you first felt that spark of energy?

Somehow, the initial inspiration and motivation isn’t there anymore and you may even wonder why you were so excited in the first place.

They say, ‘He who hesitates is lost’. But to be clear, I’d rather say, ‘he who hesitates has lost.’ When we hesitate, we lose out and we’re left to only kick ourselves later, wondering if we’ll ever get the opportunity again.

Depending on what it is, we may not get another shot at all. And, if we leave it too long, we may miss the momentum the original opportunity came with.

Think of a surfer and how she has chooses her moment. She has to seize the moment as soon as she sees that awesome wave lifting up and being fit to surf. If she hesitates, she’ll never get in there to feel the pure, impeccable energy and momentum that allows her to superbly ride the wave full out.

When she goes for it and grabs the wave without a moment to wonder or second guess herself, she can have the ride of her life. She flows with the wave, not against it and she feels the ocean pushing her, carrying her, making it all so easy.

We all need to do the same when opportunity knocks. Grab whoever is knocking, knowing they were sent there just for you. Trust your gut when you feel that excitement about something and you start to dream big things, and jump in. 

Hesitation is a great tool to guide your actions towards your next big break. When you feel that good energy and excitement, it means it’s something big and something that could be great for you. In these moments, The Universe and Her energy are pushing you, carrying you and there to hep you make your success all so easy.

I’m not saying that you should go for everything that’s put in front of you, but if you’re the least bit curious about something, you owe it to yourself and the opportunity to find out if it’s right. If it isn’t, fine. You can always bail out if it isn’t working. But by practicing saying ‘yes,’ you start the momentum for more doors to open for you.

So, if there’s anything on your to do list right now, stop putting it off.

If it’s really something you don’t want to do, take it off the list and move on. We also need to constantly make space for the better opportunities to flow in.

Secondly, mind your hesitations. If you are presented with an opportunity – seize it! Try on the hat of a spontaneity this week and see what else opens up for you.

The Universe likes action and will send you more and more energy when you take quick action.

Plus, money is energy too – dollars in exchange for energy in a beautiful flow. Get yourself into that flow of quick action and quick return. That’s the sweet spot that starts with no hesitation.

Try it for one week – no hesitation. And let me know how it goes in the comments or on Facebook.

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