Being Thirties – Podcast with Natalie Edwards

No new posts, just as promised!  I’m working away at my own goals at the moment to bring you more great content for 2016.  But here is one of those projects already- an interview done by Natalie Edwards of natedwards.co.uk.  

Natalie asked me some great questions on creative thirtysomethings and entrpreneurs as well as my thoughts on family pressures and standing in your own decisions and power.

This was a fun chat for me so I hope you enjoy it and get something from it.

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Top 5 Negative Thoughts in Your 30s and How to Deal

‘I’m Old’

Really? Okay, so we’re no longer in our twenties, but we are far from old. I could say something here like thirty is the new twenty or remind you of the vitality of the baby boomers, but I won’t. What I really want to remind you of is that saying you’re old or too old to do something or start over is an excuse. It’s a story you’re using because then you’ll be let off the hook for not trying. And by the way, thirty is the new twenty, so stop whining!

‘I’m Young’

We’re not old but, let’s face it, we’re not young anymore – meaning that we can’t get away with the same things and then blame it on our youth or immaturity. We have certain responsibilities by now and

so there is some adulting to be done. But this is also a great opportunity to get inspired by how far you’ve come and how much more you’re able to accomplish now that you no longer share a bedroom with your sibling or a dorm room with a bad-influence roommate. Celebrate what you’ve got and be proud that you have a job to wake up for that pays your bills that allow you to live and have some fun and freedom. All of this makes you stronger and smarter – more able to take care of yourself. That doesn’t make you old, it makes you awesomely independent.

‘I Hate My Job’

Duh! Let me again remind you that you’re not the only one. But, let me also remind you that there’s another group that could be calling your name. As you probably know there are ton of people who really love their jobs (yours truly included!).

So if you want to join our club, here’s the initiation:

Step 1 – Figure out what it is you really want and get a plan in gear.

Step 2 – Don’t quit your day job!

I know it’s tempting to march into your boss’s office tomorrow and throw papers in the air and quote the famous e-card that says, “IT’S F$#* THIS $8i# O’CLOCK,” but please don’t. It may seem like this approach will win you points with the Law of Attraction but I can tell you it won’t win you any points with the people that depend on you for bringing in an income. See Step 1 again and devise a plan.

Step 3 – Use your current job for as much as it can give you. Conferences and Social media training coming up at work? Perfect! You can certainly apply that to marketing your own entrepreneurial adventures. This is one way to make progress while you’re still building your plan of attack and this is the kind of action The Law of Attraction really likes.

‘I’m Supposed to…’

Fill in the rest with whatever comes up: ‘….have kids’, ‘…be making X amount of money by now’, ‘…be settled down already’. Whatever comes up, check again. Are these things coming us for you or for someone else’s expectation. If it’s not from you, it’s not for you to go after. Let other people have their own agenda. Your job is only to go after your own dreams so figure out what those are and change the conversation into: “I want to…”

‘I’m Such an Underachiever’

This is the Grand Poo-bah of negative thoughts for thirtysomeones and it needs to be killed like a final boss. Whatever or whoever makes you feel this way has to get flushed out and annihilated before success can rush in and give you the big prize of success.

The funniest part about this is that I’ve heard this from people at every level of success. I think it goes back to the last point of what we think we’re ‘supposed’ to be by a certain age but it adds this extra dash of self-loathing that doesn’t sit right with me when I think of how powerful thirtysomeones can be. This idea comes from a pretty dark place, I’d say, and the one way I see moving past it is to start here and uncover why you think so. The Bonus? Once you’ve moved past this one, you’re no longer an underachiever! Congratulations!

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Amazing Time-Management Tips for Your Thirties

I can’t create more time for you – not literally. But as a coach for thirtysomethings, my job is all about showing you that there is more time around than you think.  There really are better ways to spend your time each day and plenty of time in your thirties to follow, catch, and live your dream. So, here are my top time-managing and   time-creating tips for the busy thirtysomething [I tried to make it quick;) ]

Don’t Panic

The most important thing is your outlook. When we freak out and scream that there aren’t enough hours in a day, our brain is in a very basic, instinctual place. You’ve probably heard of the reptile brain, the amygdala. This is where our sense of fight or flight comes from and it’s a big culprit of unnecessary stress-creation. It’s a response that keeps us in confusion and freak out mode and causes that feeling that we just want to bail. We’ve all felt those times when it feels like so much we just want to give up – that’s the amygdala! So how do we soothe our senses and keep a cool head? See tip #2

Be Grateful

Taking a few moments for gratitude is a proven way of calming the nerves and bringing our consciousness back into the clear-thinking cerebral cortex. That’s just a lot of mumbo-jumbo to say, ‘It helps you calm down and start thinking clearly again’. And if you are looking at a never-ending to-do list, you need to be sharp. A clear and focused mind is your best defence against time-craziness because you’ll be able to prioritize and strategically create a better plan for getting things done. Plus, when we feel calmer overall, we make less mistakes so it’s really time well spent. So take a deep breath and be thankful for what you’ve accomplished that day or week and get your head on straight to get the rest done all in good time.

Procrastinate

Yes, procrastinate.  Start to notice how you can often leave a few things off your list for tomorrow. Who said everything has to be done today? Sure there are things with deadlines, but there are also some things without. Sometimes we forget that some of our deadlines were self-imposed and could maybe be pushed back a smidge to make way for some breathing room.

Take a Break

Sometimes I really hate this advice because obviously if you could take a break you would, right? But scheduling a break between activities is more necessary than you think and can really up your productivity. Think about scheduling buffer zones around your activities so that you can carry out your duties faster and more efficiently. Think about it: When you plan something out doesn’t it usually turn out better than if it’s rushed?Throw in a couple minutes of gratitude before you get going and you’re set to be a person of productivity rather than a ball of stress and poor time-management skills.

Bonus Tip: Time Journal

Sometimes we may not be aware of how much time there actually is in our day. What’s more is sthat we are often totally oblivious to the time sitting right in front of our faces – literally. Screen time is a HUGE time sucker. We all know it but we indulge on the sly. ‘I’ll just check my Facebook really quick –’…… half and hour later…

So for one or two days, see if you can monitor how much time you spend doing one thing (especially screen time) for a chunk of time. It’s not easy but I promise you you’ll raise some eyebrows afterwards. Think of how a personal trainer has you keep a food journal to point out where you’ve indulged or where you can do better. This is the same thing.

And if you’re not sure where you can make improvements or how – get in touch! I’d love to show you where you can create more time out of thin air!

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