How To Do Halloween in Your 30s

Happy Halloween, Thirtysomeones!

It’s very tempting to say we’re  too old for Halloween. I admit that it’s becoming more and more of a challenge to access the same enthusiasm I had for this night when I was younger. But Halloween was always so much fun growing up so I am putting in the effort, maybe hoping to keep that childhood innocence alive.

This year is actually the first year that I’m going to give out candy because I’ve been begrudging the trick-or-treaters since my late twenties, having grown just a littttttttle too big to go out myself…

But this year, I’ve decided that I’m not sitting it out anymore. I’m dressing up, my dogs are dressing up, and I can’t wait to see all the kids enjoying the night with just a small tinge of envy.

If you’re not a parent, you can do what I’m doing – dressing up with your dogs and handing out candy. I have a box of 200 and I think I’ll blow out the pumpkin when I get to 190 (or maybe even sooner) so I have some left for myself.

Or, if you’re the partying type, but  so over the club scence – no worries! I’m sure you’ll find some other crazy adults who want to dress up, watch scary movies and play Draculopoly.

Here in Toronto we have a famous haunted restaurant called, The Keg Mansion. With a great menu and wine list, this is a great way to be in the spirit, adult-styles. Check out your city for any famous haunted spots and get a group together.

If you’re a parent, you’re probably putting your kids first and getting them ready and keeping them safe. But don’t forget that one of the best ways to get your kids interested is by participating yourself. You may even find that by dressing up you awaken that spark you had as a kid. There are tons of family costume ideas online. The featured pic here is the adorable Neil Patrick Harris, his husband and kids. If you haven’t seen them before, you have to check out some of there great photos over the years and how they make Halloween as a parent look just as exciting as ever.

And if you’re stuck for a costume idea, you could always be Supermom or Superdad…because I’m sure you are!  And either way, I hope we all find a way to let our inner child lose and enjoy the night.

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Celebrating Our J’s: How to Really Support JLaw and The Toronto Blue Jays

I recently heard somewhere that when a sports team isn’t doing so well people will refer to the team as ‘they.’ Like, “They suck this year,” “They’re not doing so well,” etc. But when a team starts to do well, the language changes to ‘we‘: “We’re doing great this year,” “We’re going to take it all!”bjteam

Of course, I really got thinking about this because of my hometown team scoring a big win this week. And although I truly am
a Boston Red Sox fan, I can’t ignore the amazing energy in the city right now and not want to be a part of it. So I am definitely guilty of this bandwagon psychology, I guess you could say. Go Jays Go!

Anyway, this ‘we’ and ‘them’ stuff also got me thinking about some other hot news this week. Jennifer Lawrence (JLaw), star of The Hunger Games, wrote an essay about her discovery of her lower wages than her male counterparts in a Sony film when Sony was hacked last year. In it she says, “I’m over trying to find the ‘adorable’ way to state my opinion and still be likable f— that!”

As a woman, I admit I have participated in this phenomenon as well. More than once have I stayed silent, just so no one was put out. Don’t cause a fuss is a common thing for us ‘good women’ to think because we don’t want to put anyone out. But, who exactly are these people that women are offending by asking for an equal share? Who is put out by a woman receiving the pay she deserves or what is at least the equal to a man doing the same work?

But we can only go so far to blame the show or the companies or the industry before WE all admit that WE contribute to this outdated treatment of women. Even JLaw admitted that she wasn’t mad at Sony when she found out about the pay discrepancy: “I got mad at myself. I failed as a negotiator because I gave up early.” The gist of her reason was that she didn’t want to seem like a brat or spoiled for asking for more money. She writes that she also realizes now that there wouldn’t have been the same thought of a man for asking the same.jl3

Applause to all the men who support women receiving equal pay, like Bradley Cooper for Jennifer Lawrence and like the recent scandal on the Netflix series, Grace and Frankie. Martin Sheen and Tom Waterston came forward and agreed that they should receive less pay than Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda, two female stars of the show.

Not to get too cheesy, but we ALL need to contribute to empowering ourselves, our team – us humans who want the world to keep progressing into a greater and greater place. This is a human problem, not an industry problem, and WE are all responsible for how we got here and how WE get out.  WE all deserve equal pay.

If you are aware of any woman earning less pay for the same work as her male counterparts, you have a responsibility to yourself and all of us to speak out and correct the error. WE all will be better for it.

And while I have your attention, and in the spirit of a great week in baseball, let’s all stop saying, “He/She throws like a girl,” in a negative way. WE need to set a better example for OUR next generation of awesome girls and support them as strong equals.

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