In the last little while, I’ve told some pretty candid tales about my reckless decision-making. From blindly moving to a region in Mexico of which I knew precious nothing, to getting a tattoo in my wild teenage years and driving my mom crazy. It’s more than enough to seriously talk anyone out of motherhood.
Not only that, but my mom actually reads this blog, reliving those special moments of my teen years and cringing at all my young and dumb decisions. It really makes me hope that actors who do raunchy nude scenes have super cool parents.
Luckily, I do have a cool mom who takes it all in stride. I warned her once of an upcoming post about being stupid while traveling and she just said, “It’s okay. I hitch-hiked through Europe with your aunt, slept in the street to save money and went to a cottage with strange men. Blah, blah, blah…everyone does it.”
Phew, what a relief. I knew my mom was cool, but not that cool. And, probably like a lot of us, I certainly didn’t think so growing up.
Like most, I wanted to live far away from my parents and lead my own life from the time I was about twelve and a half. Then the butterfly tattoo and the delinquent boyfriend. Then going to university five hours away. Then moving back home. Then wanting to move back out again. Then eventually buying my own house only ten minutes away from her.
I may not have wanted her advice when I was younger but for better or worse, my mom is now the voice in my head and the voice on the other end of the phone. If I’m making a big decision, I always channel what my mom would do. If it sounds good, I’ll go with it. If it’s not really me, and I can’t decide what to do, I’ll call her. She’s known me for 33 years after all, so she can give some pretty good, tailored-to-me advice.
I’m sure she wishes her voice had been a little louder during those teen years, but I personally think I turned out pretty good…
Now that I’m ‘grown up’ I see that having your parents involved in your life isn’t the opposite of freedom. It’s the path to getting closer to understanding unconditional love and how we want to practice that in our adult lives – with our children, spouse, friends, and family.
I know my mom will love me no matter what but I still think it’s good to check in with the old saying, “Don’t do anything that wouldn’t make your mother proud.”
So yes, Mother’s Day should be for celebrating great moms and their great advice, but it also stands for being extremely grateful for never-ending, no-matter-what-you-do love.
Thanks for everything, mom;)
Happy Mother’s Day Everyone!
How did you celebrate today? I’d love to hear about it in the comments!