Last week I talked about the dangers of too many baby steps slowing our progress. But let’s say those baby steps eventually increase to big action and you actually start to feel like you’re doing all you can to make things happen and get the ball rolling. If you’re like me and most people, when we don’t see results immediately, we get impatient and worry that we’re not doing things ‘right’, or that success just may not come at all. As thirtysomeones we add the idea that we’re too old to wait any longer – we need it now or we’re doomed to be failures forever. We’re a dramatic bunch, aren’t we?
Somewhere down the line you got it in your head that there is a certain acceptable amount of time before you will start to question what your doing – for some it’s six months, for others a year. Some of us tend to believe that we should see things in weeks since that’s how quickly things manifest in other areas of our lives.
But here’s the rub. This time line was self-created, and even though you think it’s logical, it probably isn’t, and you may be riding yourself too hard for nothing. Does it really seem like your envisioned billion dollar business idea is going to take off after one tweet? Is it fair to expect to get pregnant as soon as you decide to start trying?
I have two mind salves for you today that can hopefully soothe the bites from your ants in the pants.
The first is that once you remember that your time line was self-created and has been self-imposed, you can begin to change it. Let yourself off the hook and give yourself more time. Summer or fall are much better times for launch parties or baby announcements anyway! And if you are still working on it by then, what’s the worst that will happen? You’ll either give up, meaning it couldn’t have been that important to being with. Or, you’ll realize you need to put more umph behind your plan and take some bigger action to get it going.
Secondly, we’ve all heard stories about people who try to have a baby desperately and eventually adopt. Then, once they adopt, they get pregnant! Why does this happen? The Law of Attraction says that it’s because you are no longer desperate and you’re in the same vibration with your desire.
The same idea applies here: lose the impatience and desperation. Love the building of your business (or getting down to business) in the meantime so the process becomes one of joy, rather than desperation and negativity.
This is really what people mean when they say, “live in the moment”. Don’t worry about what time it is, just know that you’re doing everything in your power right now. Check in with yourself when you feel like it’s time for results. If it’s not feeling right, change the action. It’s all part of the process and it’s not worth stressing over simply growing up.
What’s your strategy for when you get impatient or feel like the universe isn’t delivering on time? I’d love to hear your ideas and comments.
And don’t be shy – you could be the one to get the ball rolling which could trickle over into other areas of your life!