Reflecting on 2014 – VIDEO POST

I hope everyone had or is still having a wonderful holiday!

Today’s post is a video blog from my hotel room where I was doing some quiet reflection on the past year, and guess what? I was given Room 2014 !!!

The universe never ceases to amaze me…

Click the link to find out more about my reflection, how you can do it too, and also find out what great new stuff I’ll be publishing on Being Thirty in the new year.

Happy Reflecting and Happy 2015!

2014 Refection VIDEO

Holiday Expectations That Hold Us Back

We all know that the holidays are great, wacky, wonderful and stressful, all at the same time. We all know we have to just breathe and take it all one step at a time, maybe have a little extra rum in the eggnog. But one thing we may not realize is that a lot of our stress and what brings us down are our own expectations.  Fortunately, most times, if we can pinpoint that expectation, a lot of the strength we give it will fade away or not even show up to begin with.

Here’s an example. Let’s say you want to get your mother or father “the perfect gift,” but, like most parents, they’re impossible to buy for. So you see the dilemma. Your expectation and the reality you state the next moment are at odds. I struggle with this one every year.  My strategy this year was to remind myself that usually when I let go, the greatest gift idea presents itself and the whole process becomes easy…and it did!  (Thank goodness!)

Now, If you happen to have a parent who expects “the perfect gift” to be given to them, then you have to also consider how much that really is about you and let that go as well…

Or maybe you’re scrambling around for your kids. Will your kids be “expecting” those gifts? And should they be? Will Christmas be ruined if you don’t deliver everything on their lists?  Letting go means asking yourself if the stress is worth it.  You’re going to have to answer this one for yourself.

While we’re at it, have you set any ridiculous expectations for those you love? Maybe you had a “list” for your family. How would you feel to find out that they were stressed and scrambling around for you?…   It wouldn’t hurt to check in and let them know you’re happy with whatever they decide on and you are only hoping for a great family gathering.

Though everyone is saying it, let me be another to remind you (and myself) that the holidays should be a holiday – no expectations, just hope for good times.

I wish you all the best and lots of luck to all of us in letting go a little bit more this holiday season.

Happy Holidays!

Have You Grown UP This Year?

With one more year almost at its end, we’re getting in last-minute shopping and last-minute goals.  We might also be looking forward to the next year already, excited for a new start once again. Moving forward and getting better is always the goal but what if there was an even better way to feel about the work ahead that seems to never be done?

When we imagine growth and increase, we often picture the road ahead – long, maybe winding, and always farther and farther along. This image of moving down the line can sometimes make the future seem unattainable and we can get the feeling that happiness will never arrive.

But growth and increase are usually associated with great height and strength, so why don’t we change our mental picture?

Try this exercise I experimented with quite often with my hypnosis clients:

This month, as you imagine growth (financial, spiritual, business and even your goals and targets), try and imagine them above you instead of out front. Better yet, imagine that every time you feel like you’re working toward your goal, your body is growing stronger. This mental exercise can have great affects. I personally try to use this visualization rather than the “road ahead” version because it creates instant gratification – happiness in the now. Instead of just collecting achievements along the path and forgetting about them, I try and give myself the gift of acknowledging that I’ve increased, grown, and that I’m stronger in some way from all my experiences.

Let’s say you achieve a goal on your to do list like, “Find the perfect sweater for mom.” You put a great big check mark beside the item and move onward to the next item, chasing the end of the list.  Check marks are great, as I said last post, but imagine this: Instead of just a check mark you take a few seconds (yes, just seconds) to imagine how accomplishing your goal has made you a greater, stronger person. You’ve grown as a gift-buyer!

Imagine yourself a little taller or stronger, your shoulders back and flexing those abs! You haven’t just got the gift and added it to the bag, you’ve acquired an experience. Now imagine your next gift to find. Your super-gift-buying powers are stronger and finding something for dad might not be as hard as you thought.

One more example.  Let’s say you need to make a phone call to a client that you have been putting off.  You know completing this will lead to either X or Y outcome or another A or B thing to do.  You call the client, and imagine yourself growing upward and getting stronger from that experience.  Now the next phase isn’t something down the line, but something else you’re ready to gobble up to increase your power.

It may sound cheesy now, but doesn’t it sound more fun than imagining a never-ending list of “to-dos” on a never-ending highway?  And, with practice, your happiness can meet up with you in the present, not down the line somewhere.

Your thirties [spoiler alert] won’t be forever. This is crunch time – time for good habits, superior upward growth and the achievement of a ton of great things!

Don’t forget to think of everything that has increased you in 2014!  Give it a try – I’d love to hear what it does for you.

Have a great week and happy holiday shopping!

A Few To-Dos Before Year’s End

In these wee hours of 2014, we’ve got only a little time to accomplish what we wanted for this year. We should also take a little time to appreciate what we have accomplished from our lists.

Also, take a minute to look back and acknowledge the surprises and gifts you received this year, heights you reached that weren’t even planned for, but that have added to your happiness.

One of the greatest gifts I received this year was an encouraging tweet on this little ol’ blog and it kept me going this whole year.  It’s even continued to inspire me into next year when I’m hoping to put something really big out there that all can benefit even more people.

I also began to really feel the power of gratitude this year and I hope all of you can do the same – every day if you can.

Sure there were goals I didn’t quite reach but now that I have to add them to my list again I know I’ll have to put more power behind them in 2015. I know that checking off goals is a great feeling and leaving anything unchecked might be a little disheartening, but putting yourself down for not getting there doesn’t help the eventual realization of those desires.

Keep a good attitude – remember all the good reasons for wanting what you want and you will get there.  Here’s a great recent article for keeping that in mind:  How Feelings of Gratitude Breed Happiness and Well-Being

So here’s to us and our accomplishments this year and a hearty thank you to all who helped us on our journey.