Making a change is always hard and very often we make it harder on ourselves by acting defeated before we start. We’ve all said, I’m too old to start again, or It’s too late for me. The funny thing is that when a friend comes to us with the same woes, we tell them that they’re crazy and give a laundry list of reasons why they’re wrong.
So what is it that makes us only our own worst enemy?
Truly this is yet another way fear disguises itself and causes us to make excuses and back down. Any time we feel like trying something new, fear has a sly way of reminding you of the time you caught your dad dancing to hip hip. You’re too old for this, fear warns. And almost as quickly as your dad gets whiplash, you decide to stay in your comfort zone.
In our thirties, we often feel like we shouldn’t veer off the path we started paving in our twenties – it would be stupid to tear it all up and start again, wouldn’t it?
Or would it?
But is it really worth paving a road (yes, let’s stay with this metaphor) that you’re not even excited about riding on anymore?
If you’re in this position now, ask yourself this: In five years, will I be a person I respect if I keep doing what I’m doing? If your answer is no, then wouldn’t the next five years be better spent designing something new that inspires you and everyone around you?
I like to think of what will look worse – a safe and stable unhappy version of me or a risk-taking creative me that totally went for it? In the end, is it really so bad that your dad secretly jams to G-Unit? I mean, who doesn’t?
There’s probably some way that you can take a step towards the life you want even today. Make a call, do some research and tomorrow do it again. Eventually momentum builds and before you know it, you’ll be happily unrecognizable to yourself.
Today isn’t too late. You’re not too late. You’re not too old. The only time it’s too late is when you’re dead. Period.
So let’s get started!