Are Your Twenties A Ticking Time Bomb?

This past week I tried to ask as many of my twenty-something friends as possible to weigh in on how they feel about their future, and since they don’t read my blog because they don’t think it pertains to them, I’m safe (but only for now since I’d really like to get more twenty-something readers.)

The gist of our conversations was that “settling down,” to them means, “As soon as you turn thirty you are expected to get serious about getting married and having kids.” The worst part was that when they were talking about this, they looked completely beaten and conquered by the inevitability. It got pretty real when one girl said she was so afraid of being, “thirty and boring.”

I just smiled.

When I was in my twenties I was actually looking forward to my thirties because I thought everything would be worked out by then. I’d have my dream career and more money that I could have ever imagined. I’m pretty close to this but it certainly didn’t happen over night. It took two years and it will probably take a little longer too before I get exactly where I want to go. I was pretty naïve to think that the magical thirty fairy would turn me into a successful adult on my thirtieth birthday. If I remember correctly, it was pretty much the opposite. I had a two-day hangover and then, that same week, I got a rejection letter from the Masters program I had been dreaming about since I was twenty.

Maybe that’s not such a great advertisement to the twenty-something readers out there after all, but the point is that there’s no time limit. Turning thirty doesn’t mean that the fun stops. The type of fun you have might change, but there’s still a lot of grown-up fun to be had.

But if you think that you’re a party animal now and you’ll snap out of it at thirty, you’re dead wrong. Maybe you need to do some soul-searching now before you hit thirty and think you’re a failure because you didn’t hit the magical finish line and get a wife and kids as your trophy. But do you really want that? Maybe you are just a lifelong party girl or guy and kids just aren’t you’re style. That doesn’t mean you can’t “settle down” with a great partner and party around the world.almost 30

And if you want marriage, kids and the suburbs, that’s cool too. But be sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. “I think it’s time,” or “My girlfriend is ready for kids,” aren’t great reasons. “Because I think being a husband and a father is an amazing job and I want to give it a go,” is.

Thirty isn’t the finish line, my dear twenty-somethings, it’s a milestone. You should be aiming towards something no matter how old you are so try not to feel any more pressure at thirty than you do in your twenties. You can put a time limit on achieving your goals, but don’t get downtrodden or start hating on your thirtieth birthday if you slightly miss your mark.

It’s just a day.

There’s a whole decade on the other side that’s waiting for the more mature, self-assured, better and more successful you.

 

As always, I’d love to hear from you:

Any twenty-somethings want to weigh-in on how they feel?  I’d love to hear that my particular friends are just jaded.

Or how about my fellow thirty-somethings – any advice for the “about-to-be” or “newby” out there?

The Very Inspiring Blogger Award

I’m proud to announce that I’ve been nominated for a “Very Inspiring Blogger” Award.  To accept the award and post the pic on my site I must do the following:

1)  Thank and link to the person who nominated me.

Big thank you to Anthony who nominated me.  He writes Today’s Perfect Moment – a relaxing daily read in support of mindfulness.

Today’s Perfect Moment

2)  Share seven facts about myself

I’m an English teacher by day and freelance writer by night and weekend.  I love sports, gardening, and playing guitar and ukulele.  I live in beautiful Toronto, Canada with my husband and two dogs.

3)  Reveal 15 more blogs that I follow

15 is a lot.  I think I follow maybe 5 religiously and then there are others I check from time to time.  Sometimes I wish there were more hours in the day to read everything on Freshly Pressed!

–1.  Biking In A Big City

I like this blog because there are great stories but also updates on bike trails and cool places to go on your bike in Toronto.

–2.  World Organic News.

Great source for several article links every day.  From seed trading to water conservation, there’s always something that tickles my green thumb.

–3. Wine Is My Life

I think the title says it all…but one of the biggest reasons I would recommend this particular wine blog is that it is updated frequently and the reviews are short and clear.

–4. Torontobaobao’s Lenses

Another local love of mine.  Cute photos of my city coupled with quirky commentary.

–5  Today’s Perfect Moment 

Great blog and thanks again!

–6…

There are a number of blogs on success, goal-making, aging and health out there but I don’t follow any of them particularly. I usually just look for articles in Freshly Pressed.  

–7…

I also like to check out blogs by teenagers. Teens LOVE to talk about their plans in life so I like to keep a pulse on how they think to keep my own progress in perspective. 

 I know I’ve fallen quite short of 15 but I hope I can still fly the award flag on my site this week.  Thanks again to all my readers and I hope I will continue to inspire 🙂  

I’d love to hear your favourite blogs too and any suggestions you have to help boost my list.

Super-Charge Your Subconscious

Thought I would spice things up this week with a video blog.

We all know that visualizing our goals is an important part of moving forward and achieving exactly what we want.  In the video, you’ll learn how you can strengthen your meditation or visualizations for better results!

LINK: Super-Charge Your Subconscious

 

Hope you enjoy it and let me know what you think!

 

Five Simple Steps to Being Thirty

There’s actually a Wikihow page on how to accept being thirty.  It’s a five-step process, apparently.

If you’ve been a loyal follower of this blog then first, I truly thank you.  Secondly, you know that this is complete crap.  Being thirty isn’t something you can sum up into five steps – maybe you even know this without reading my blog…

Sure it’s fun to consider the list which, by the way, culminates in step five: “Don’t worry, 30 is the new 20!” (urgghhh!)  But there are so many more steps and paths to achieving thirties greatness that can be seriously explored, considered and shared.

That’s what my current research project is based on – finding some basic steps that we all have followed to becoming great in our thirties or forties and passing on this complex wisdom to the next flailing generation.  

But just for fun, what would your Five Steps to Achieving Greatness in Your Thirties be?  I’d love to hear your ideas- funny, serious, dark or deep.  Who knows?  I might really like them and credit you in the final e-book!

Check out the Wiki page and then take a stab at it for yourself!