Why I Blog

By my thirties I thought that I would be successful beyond my wildest dreams, living the high life. I had no idea how to make that happen, but I was confident that it would. Into my late twenties, most things had worked out or fallen into my lap. I had been pretty lucky.

When I turned thirty I started to notice that those lucky breaks weren’t happening anymore. Things that I wanted took a lot more work and planning.

Before I got too discouraged I had to force myself to admit that the things I wanted in my twenties – finish university, buy a car, have a boyfriend – weren’t really big ticket items. At thirty, when my desires were more about fulfillment, joy, personal growth and success, I had to take a breath and actually figure out a plan. Fast. I certainly didn’t want to plan and plan until there was no time to actually accomplish anything until forty.

Why had I been so sure that attaining these things would be easy?

I started this blog as a place to write. To be the writer I’ve always wanted to be, I knew I needed practice.

I kept going because being thirty isn’t easy and it’s a fun topic.

The main reason I write now, which actually has evolved since I started, is that I want to encourage everyone to plan more carefully and think more about the important things in life before you get discouraged – before you think it’s too late.

So that’s why I write – for you and for me. And this is why I’m doing a further research project.

I love reading about aging, life stages and cycles, personal growth and success, but I’m ready to hear some first-hand accounts and add my own spin to the pile of information that’s out there.

I’m still just getting started so bear with me. While I’m working away, here’s some food for thought:

I asked my mom a while back, “When I was little, what did you think I would be when I grew up?”

“Exactly what you are, I think. Some kind of writer or something,” she said.

I was a little disappointed at first by such a boring response, but now I’m pretty happy that I seem to be doing what I’m meant to be doing.

Try it with your own folks and see what they have to say. Post your answers in Comments when you do!

Five Months Left To Complete Your 2014 Goals

If you haven’t noticed, 2014 is more than half over!  That means that any of those resolutions you’ve been putting off and putting off some more, should probably be crossed off as either, “Not a True Priority,” or you force yourself to do whatever it is – NOW. No excuses!

Just to rub it in a little, I just crossed off, “See a Red Sox Game at Fenway Park” this past Saturday. It was more amazing than I ever dreamed and it feels so great to have those memories now.
Maybe you’ve got a bucket list to complete or maybe it’s just a tough phone call you have to make. Me? I had a really really late blog post to write…

Whatever the task, having it in the past instead of taking up any more of your worried or nervous energy is always a relief. So, forgive yourself for putting it off so long and go do it!

I’m off to start my research project, so stay tuned for that.  No more procrastination – I have goals to achieve this year!


Take A Break To Be Better

Everything needs a break.”
Toba Beta, Master of Stupidity

In case you’ve ever wondered, I spend a lot of time researching age and aging, success and inspiration to compose solid posts for thirty something’s, anyone who has been thirty or plans on it in the future.

As you also may remember, a while back I mentioned that I will be embarking on a giant research project very soon. I’m on vacation from my day job this week and I thought it would be a good idea to take a break from researching too before I start the project. Don’t worry, the blog will go on! …though a little later in the week most likely…kinda like this one…

My intention for this break is that all the studies I’ve read and documentaries I’ve sat through will have time to digest and my posts will be more thoughtful and inspirational than ever.

I actually got the idea from my fitness routine. Most trainers suggest a break from training every six weeks or so. It gives your muscles time to fully recover and grow, making them stronger for when you return. As a side note, during this time they suggest you can fast, do a juice diet or go vegan society (I’m currently doing the vegan one, much to my husband’s chagrin).

As a further treat, I’m off to beautiful Boston to check off some pretty big items on the ol’ bucket list- Red Sox game at Fenway and walk the grounds at Harvard in a cardigan and see if I can fake it ’til I make it. Unlikely, but fun to dream.

If, like me, you’re nervous about taking a step back in fear of losing momentum, remember that you’re likely to come back stronger and more ready to tackle new projects and the creative juices will be itching to start flowing again.

I’d also like to take the opportunity to welcome all the new readers. It seems that stories about my ankle injury really spark an interest. I’m still recovering but I’m optimistic that the time off from standing up teaching all day will do some good on that front too.

Hope you’re enjoying some well-deserved breaks this summer and cheers to putting off productivity for another day!


Thank You, Canada!


Many spiritual and motivational teachers adamantly preach that gratitude is essential for “The Good Life.”  Being grateful for everything in our life is the beginning of making space for new things to enter. When there’s nothing to be thankful for, start with something simple.  “I’m grateful for this cup of coffee and the fact that I can taste.”

Rhonda Byrne, the creator of the Secret puts it like this:  “If you are not emanating gratitude from your being, then by default you are emanating ungratefulness.”  This means that the universe and everyone around you sees you as undeserving of great things.

What made me think of this today is that tomorrow is July 1st – Canada Day.  I was so unhappy going to work today instead of having a long weekend but now, tonight, I’m so happy I don’t have to work tomorrow.  I also realized that I’m grateful that I live in a country that lets me (and all women) work so we can appreciate a day off.  And, all my different colour (yes, we spell it with a “u”), gay (shout out to World Pride Toronto), disabled friends can work too.  And if we can’t work, Canada helps us out.

And if we want to get married to anyone we want, Canada says it’s okay.  It’s still not the case everywhere in the world, so it’s a pretty big deal.


I am so grateful to live in such an amazing and beautiful country. Happy Birthday Canada!

And an early Happy Independence Day, USA!