‘Old’ Friends

Last week I got a text from an old friend – my best friend from grade school who I haven’t spoken two in eight years. She said she was feeling nostalgic and wanted to meet up for drinks. It was a little strange to hear from her after so long but I once I remembered that her thirty-first birthday is in less than two months, I wasn’t really surprised that she was indulging in a little life-evaluation. I agreed to meet and thought if nothing else came of it I would still have a great blog post.

I had no trouble recognizing her or getting the conversation started. I hate when people bother to use the cliché, “it’s like no time had passed,” but it fit here. Of course we have different lives now but there was nothing too surprising. She became a successful hairdresser and has a funky apartment downtown. Yours truly, the teacher and writer, didn’t surprise her any since, as she mentioned, I wrote some of her high school essays for her.

What all of this ended up telling me was not only more about being thirty (which it did in abundance), but also the fact that when you open a door, there can be a rush of ideas and material waiting to rush in. As I said, I haven’t spoken to this woman in almost a decade but now, as I write my book and blog on the topic of being thirty, an important part of my past shows up wanting to talk about “what it all means”. At one point, without even knowing that I was writing about turning thirty she said, “There really is something about turning thirty, isn’t there?”


Looking Thirty



I have been building a website recently (staying young in technology years…). I’ve done it before when I had my own hypnosis practice, but this time I’m using a different platform so I’m still getting used to it. You would think that a website for hypnosis would be more difficult to build with authority since there are so many skeptics, but I’m actually finding the opposite. It’s been difficult promote myself as a new writer since I don’t have a lot of samples – I’m new!

Of course I had the same problem with the hypnosis site (and the business in general) because people were a little leery of hypnosis and even more so of a twenty-six-year-old trying to convince you of her skills. I had professional photos done at the time which I thought made me look older but I was always nervous about presenting myself to my mostly middle-aged clients.

Now I’m in a similar predicament. I want to have a professional site where businesses can see my work and a picture of me, but I look young, and I can’t seem to find the look I want in a photo. In June I went to a baseball game and they asked me for my id! They say they “card” under 25, but still. I don’t mean to brag because it is great to look youthful, but not as fun to look young.

What do you think about this picture? I’d love to hear what you think? Do I look like a writer of professional copy and articles or a recent graduate bound to make rookie mistakes?

Looking forward to your comments and suggestions.


How Old Are You In Technology Years?

My mom has recently returned from a trip around the east coast of Canada. To keep in touch she had her cellphone and iPad, both of which she struggles to use on a daily basis. Before she left I gave her a lesson on how to connect to wifi in places other than her house. She took notes in a paper notebook.  I kept patient when she asked if she could still check her email if she wasn’t at home.

Not only is my mom not of the computer era, she’s never been machine savvy. Growing up I lived with a post-it on the microwave and it is still my job to regularly set the clock in her car, on the stove and the DVD player.

It makes me think about how far technology has come and may go in the future. I wonder if I will be able to keep up or will I show my age by being out of the techno-loop? I have already had moments. It was only recently that I had to ask my students to explain hashtags and the difference between Tumblr and Pinterest.

The Internet wasn’t around when I was growing up. I only got a computer when I was in grade twelve and the Internet was in its infancy when I was in university. My hope is that technology won’t contribute to how old I come across (this blog about my age excluded).

My mom, sadly, is nine-hundred-years-old in technology terms but she did mange to send me a few emails which she is quite proud of. I won’t tell her that auto-correct made for some funny errors like, “Canyon water my plants” (read: Can you water my plants).

Nowadays we have to be hip to new technology to keep the appearance of youth.  So how can we keep up?  Where do teenagers get their information on the newest things? My students say it’s from other teenagers – people they know, and also blogs!  A great reason to keep reading – my blog and others will keep you young and in the know about technology.  Now go and Google the difference between Tumblr and Pinterest!

I’d love to hear your age-related technology stories. Please leave a comment or email me about it! ashewoodz@gmail.com

Thirty-One and a Half

This past week I turned 31 1/2.  This sounds childish but since beginning this beingthirties journal and blog I am much more aware of time and age passing by.  Don’t get me wrong, I see this as a great thing!  I am much more aware of how far I have come since my thirtieth birthday and I am proud to say that being 31 has been even better.

How about you?  What revelations have you had since you’ve turned thirty?  Have you thought about how far you’ve come or your change in outlook?  Please leave a comment, I’d love to hear from you!