It’s Been a Slice…

You know when you learn a new word and then you hear it everywhere for the next week?

Or when you think you’re pregnant, and you start seeing babies everywhere?

Well, this has been my reality for the last month. 

No no, I’m not pregnant!

The truth is that I’ve been being given numerous signs and even support on a decision to move on from this blog and newsletter.

For the last few months I’ve been working on a project called Yolopalooza. It’s an event I’m putting on here in Toronto that is largely based on my favourite topic and question that’s come out of my work here –

How can we add more fun to our lives?

This blog all started with a desire to learn more about myself and grow as a writer. Well, I feel like I’ve done a lot of that and gotten even more out of it than I could have imagined.

Because of this blog I’ve connected with so many of you around the world and gotten to know some of you more closely as my personal clients. It’s been an honour to be a part of your journey.

But I’m being pulled towards this other work, pretty loudly I must say. It’s come to me in the form of random websites, podcasts and even articles in newspapers that I never read.

I even came across some of the best advice I’ve ever gotten in my whole darn life.

So, I hope you’ll come along with me for this next part.

I’ll even share that ‘best advice ever’ at some point – probably in my first NEW post.

But if finding more fun for your life is not what you need right now and you choose to call it a day with me, that’s cool too. Let me leave you with some parting advice that is my best attempt to sum up what I’ve learned with you these last four years.
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(Whenever I get down about being too old or not old enough, I come back to this idea)

Being in your thirties is a privilege not everyone gets to experience. Sometimes it’s hard AF but, if you keep searching, you’ll eventually find answers and begin to see the greatest parts!

 

With all my love and humblest gratitude,

Ashe

 

Here’s where to find me next:

yolopalooza.com

@yolopalooza

yoloverse.wordpress.com

 

What I Did When I Was Sick of Myself

Just a little over a month ago I took a hard look at schedule and my stress level and decided to do something (actually a bunch of things) about it.

I thought it was only how I was scheduling my time but as I looked at it more closely, so much more disgusting puss oozed out of the cracks of my routine.

So ya, I stopped the blog for a while, re-did my website, started a new yoga routine and even started getting up earlier to meditate longer. Oh ya, and I also got serious about eating a strict vegan diet. I call this an ‘Overhaul’ in the Do-over ebook and, let me tell ya, it’s not for the faint of heart!

Thinking I’m indestructible because I know all the strategies and tools that go into making change, I just went for it – full on.

Not smart.

At first I was tired, cranky, uninspired and I knew so many fibres of my being were being challenged and resisting all this change. Then, all I felt like doing was complaining, sleeping, and eating potato chips and wine for dinner – Hey, it’s vegan, right?

I would try to get up early to meditate but I felt so rotten I ended up skipping it all together and hitting the snooze button for another precious twenty-five minutes. Seeing how crap I was at change, it was hard to have faith but I knew I had to keep trying.

Maybe tomorrow, maybe tomorrow. I just prayed for it to be temporary and hope that it was just the initial adjustment stage.

-Weeks later now I’m like, phew!

As usual, the Universe thankfully has stepped in and is now fully supporting my desires once again. Why did I ever doubt her?!

Since finally crawling out from underneath the covers on consecutive mornings I have full-out and gigantically been stating that I needed to change and up my game. And finally, Timing and Coincidence have ushered in a slew of new players into my life – most of whom I’d call “big-time.”

In the last few weeks I’ve met and connected with people who are on a level I didn’t know existed. I thought I was being ballzy, but these people are here to show me how to really get into the game – stand for my business, myself, my peeps and clients.

Not only that but I seem to be finding better than average blogs and websites, and being directed to much better events and richer, vibrant and more flavourful places for a good time.

All of these things are on the outside of me but I’m embracing them, using them as the key to digging deeper in myself and bringing more of myself to the “Grown-up table”.

And I’m thinking of you today. I’m standing up for you and to you by asking: Are you settling for less in your life?  Have you checked in lately on your standards? Is it possible you’ve let things slide and pass for just okay because you’ve lost faith that things           can be better?

If it’s just not enough, I’d love to show you how to up your game, your vibration and your whole entire gigantic and beautiful life…and stick with it!

Get in touch at support@ashewoodward.com and find out more at my bigger, badder and bolder site: ashewoodward.com

How Much Math Do You Remember from High School?

Holy crap, I was the worst math student ever.

I was a straight-A student everywhere else, but math was just the worst. Can you relate?

In high school I had all advanced classes except for switching to the most basic math class I could take. And before big exams I even had my uncle tutor me. Even so, I think I still only pulled off a B!

But my teachers kept saying, “Math is so important. You’ll really be thankful for this one day.”

Really?

Hmm. If I had a dime for every time I’ve needed the Pythagorean Theorem in my daily life…

But, now that you mention it, Mrs.Sayso, I could actually really use some information on how to stay sane when I can’t stand my boss. And, actually, now that I’m an adult, I’m getting sick quite often because I’m just not sure how to handle stress at work. Does Pythagorus have any words of wisdom for me there?

Oh, and thanks for the surprise that math actually isn’t what I need for real life at all. What I need is direction towards happiness, less stress and a better way to connect with my true self that will help me find a career I can stomach (and maybe a good calculator). What have you got in that category?

Sarcasm aside, I don’t blame my teachers or the system. That’s just the way it is. And, yes, math is important in some ways, but I believe practical skills from how to do one’s own taxes to stress management would be a more well-rounded education.

Thankfully, I think we’re moving towards this now and if it’s not yet in schools, there’s a lot more literature out there on being your best, happiest, true-to-your-gut self than when I was a teenager (this blog is one too, BTW).

As adults, we need to take responsibility; it’s like the definition of adult, really. So we take our education, our happiness and our joy into our own hands.

It’s not anyone else’s fault but our own – true!

But the good news? It’s also our prerogative to make changes to situations, schedules or routines that don’t make us completely in love with our lives every day.

Some of the big ones like job, career, relationship may have to wait while we figure out another way, but we will.

We’re big now. We can find ways to solve big problems. Pythagorus at least showed us that.
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What are your biggest problems right now?
How are you figuring out another way?

This week could be a great new start. Instead of Sunday night blues, how about Sunday night planning? Ask yourself what an ideal week at your job would look like. What is one thing you can do to make something like that – or exactly that – happen?

I’d love to hear the plan and support you on the Being Thirties Facebook page. 

And If you’d like a good read on how to fall in love with your adult life, get your free copy of “Successful Goal-Making for 30-Somethings.” at ashewoodward.com

Or, if you’re ready to jump in today, let’s talk!
Get in touch at support@ashewoodward.com to discuss personal coaching for grown-ups on how to be a happy grown-up:)

 

I’m Starting to Hate ‘Millennials’ [WARNING: CONTAINS ADULT LANGUAGE]

You may or may not have noticed the radio silence on the blog. I don’t know if anyone is reading anymore, and I don’t really blame you if you aren’t.

I had to take a serious break from being part of this cultural obsession with generations and where we all fit and how we’re all going to deal with our different communication styles. And trust me, if you’re sick of reading the word, ‘millennial,’ then you can bet I’m sick of writing it.

There was no such word as ‘millennial,’ when I started writing the blog, if you can believe it. It’s hard to imagine now since it’s ubiquitous now in news stories and social media posts. But lately I’ve started to feel like I was drowning in the buzzword of the moment, unable to compete with the constant outpour of articles on millennials.

When I first started writing the blog it was because I was in a scary-dark place – depressed and looking for answers for what I wanted to do with my life and what it actually meant to be an adult woman with absolutely no plans for her future.

When I thought that I could explore these questions through writing, I got excited for the first time in months. I loved the idea that no one was really talking about the fact that the game of being an adult has totally changed from only ten years ago and I wanted to explore it hard – I also really needed to because I desperately needed those answers for myself.

Why is everything more difficult, more expensive, more challenging, more draining, and more shitty than I ever imagined? Is everyone else getting this joke but me? Am I the only one who feels like her body is a grave misrepresentation of the scared little girl inside?

Then, I guess, because I write about thirty-somethings, my friends and family started sending me videos, articles and social media posts about the latest articles with the buzzword ‘millennial’ in the headline, thinking that this is what I’m looking for.

And yes, sometimes the topic overlaps – some millennials are now in their thirties, some are GenX and some are caught somewhere between. But really (and I must be clear here): I don’t give a fuck about what generation anyone comes from – every generation of this century, I believe (and maybe beyond that) will have a specific struggle as they transition from twenties to thirties because of the way Western society is currently set up.

… And besides journalists and marketing specialists, I don’t think anyone else really does either.

And I’m so sick of the word, the concept and the fact that every writer and their mother thinks they know how to classify the millennial mind and who millennials really are, what they want and how they behave. It’s just so stupid.

The irony is that millennials are all about breaking down labels and accepting differences, but we’re forcing them to be categorized and stereotyped every step of the way, just to impress Google.

It’s also ineffective. I can’t believe we’re spending so much time reading the articles on this instead of getting our hands dirty and just talking to the young people we work with.

Sure millennials grew up in a different time and technology makes them seem more separate and new, but isn’t every generation new, wide-eyed and full of hopeful ideologies? Didn’t the flower children of the seventies spark the same interest and become a movement that helped us all evolve into a more loving and accepting society?

Millennials are just the next step; they’re taking it all a little further once again. That’s all. It’s not really that amazing, surprising, or really as fucking difficult as everyone says it is in all these articles.

“Millennials are so hard to please and understand”.

Garbage! I call serious bullshit on this.

They’re just people. They’re just younger fucking people. Talk to them like people and you’ll find out they’re actually pretty cool, happy to help and normal fucking humans – not an alien race of weirdos that the press makes them out to be, just for dramatic effect.

And really, the only reason ‘millennial’ is such as buzzword is because at any other time in history, writers and reporters would use words like ‘today in business’ and ‘nowadays,’ ‘current social behaviours.’ But these words are too mundane to be picked up by Google and improve your SEO ranking or get you featured in a hashtag search. The result is that we see ‘millennial’ get overused everywhere when really we’re just talking about how the world is progressing.

Personally, I really don’t give a shit what generation you come from – that’s not my question; that’s not where my curiosity leads me.

So, just to be clear: My questions are about adulthood – adulthood in the twenty-first century when apparently it’s okay to dress like a child, love cartoons, shoot each other with paint but also know how to pay down debt and navigate the new roles of male and female in the workplace, online, politics and even our own sexual relationships.

Send me your millennial articles if you must, but also look through them for yourself. Do you have a millennial in your life that you can ask if the article is on point or can you perhaps smell the bullshit wafting out of the desperate writer’s keyboard? Write about millennials, she says, that’s always a hit!

So this last month I just needed a break. I needed to step back and regroup with what my intent is here. I have no interest in the millennial hype. I have real questions that I think truly matter to people over thirty, and they have nothing to do with our top ten worst cellphone habits or our work ethic as it compares to the boomers.

Right now I’m working on the questions on my own. I want to know where our culture is really heading.

I want to know if higher education is about to die because of the fear of debt.

I want to talk about the pain of not being able to conceive, or the pain of not being able to have it all in a world full of endless options and over-stimulation.

I want to know what keeps you up at night and what really gets you going and motivated to go to the same crappy job every day (besides an Oprah quote clad in gold-glitter handwriting on a rose gold background).

There’s a lot of pain we’re all holding in and a lot we might also be chalking up to #firstworldproblems, but that’s bullshit too. It’s all relative.

What if we solve some of our pain here so we can be our best selves and help others; help the planet; help animals; help help help and love?

That’s what keeps me up at night before I close my iPad.That’s what I search for and what I think is worth writing about and talking about. #everyone.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on any or all of this. Are you feeling like the millennial craze is everywhere and just too much? Are you sick of how many times I used the word ‘millennial’ in this article seemingly to up my SEO (ironic, yes, but kind of unavoidable this time, really)? How’s your adult life going so far?

Mine’s ok. I’m working it out.

With hope and more fire,

Ashe

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Only Crazy People Claim to See the Future, Right?

A couple of days ago, I was lucky enough to catch Jen Sincero, author of You are a Badass,  in intimate conversation right here in Toronto.

When a woman from my book club told me about the event, I couldn’t believe it. How would crowds of thousands of people fit into the bookstore? I mean, she’s crazy-famous, right? A bestselling author and life coach – people are going to be breaking the doors down!

I couldn’t wait to hear what she had to say and I desperately wanted her to sign my copy of her book because I had highlighted and flagged it up pretty good. It’s absolutely full of juicy nuggets to get you over yourself and get going. I just hoped I could strong arm my way to her.

Unfortunately, I arrived much later (and sweatier) than I had hoped but ….no worries. There were still plenty of seats and I was still able to find great seats for me and my friend.

Maybe I got the time wrong.  Nope. People had plenty of standing room too, and the doors to the bookstore remained fully in tact…

I guess I’m a little out of touch with reality being so immersed in the self-development/help/growth world that I think everyone else is too. I thought it would be like an amazing rock concert with moshing and crowd surfing. This is amazing S#*% man! My mind is blown!

All the while I could stand back and be the cool guy nodding his head like, I know man, I know. I’ve totally read the book and I’ve been down with these concepts for years, man.

Wrong.

Sincero was totally a rockstar all the way down to her great energy for her material. But she also has a great way of taking familiar concepts and adding a new perspective and energy to them. She knew exactly how to give the goods to this very lucky, intimate group. So much so that she snapped me out of my know-it-all head motions more than a few times.

My favourite riotous lick of the night was an answer to a crowd question on procrastination:

[this is a summary of Sincero’s genius answer; not verbatim]

Procrastination is fear –  a special fear laced with ideas of unattainable perfection.

Perfection as a reason to not get started on something makes no sense. If you believe that there is a perfect version of who you are or what you want to create, you’re a little nuts. Not even the Universe knows what your fully expressed self looks like, so why would you think you have any clue?

And why would you limit your future – any facet and any version of it – to your limited imagination? Creation works through us and evolves and creates our lives in ways we could never ever just imagine.

-Mind. Blown.

And just like that I feel like I can more easily say, “So long perfection, I’m so done with you.” (More easily – not totally).

Yet still, forever changed, I sat there re-evaluating every area of my life that was in the queue to be worked on in the ‘perfect’ state and at the ‘perfect’ time for the ‘perfect’ outcome.

I’m getting on all this s#*% tonight, I told myself. …Errr, right after I get my book signed.

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Just like I thought the place would be packed, I was wrong. There was a decent crowd, but it was pretty tame , which was awesome actually because I was one of the last to have my book signed and I really only waited about ten minutes.

Guess I can’t predict the future after all.

Hm.

Wanna work with me on what the Universe has in store for you next?

Check out the DO-Over Course HERE. Register before May 2nd!

 

 

If Only There Was a Magic Button…

I don’t know about you, but I thought – I really, really thought – that I would have my life totally figured out by the time I turned 30. But when I got there, I felt like I was the furthest away from knowing myself and what I wanted to do with my life than ever before.

I was in a job already longer than I had intended to be in and I couldn’t see my way out of it. Not anywhere in the near future anyway.

I desperately needed a do-over.

I needed a magic button that would send me back in time to when I was deciding on my major and I would be able to save myself so much time, money and heartbreak. I’d make sure I had a job that I loved and I would ingeniously save up to protect myself from the 2008 economic crap puddle.

Of course, that wasn’t happening any time soon either so I had to figure out how I was going to redesign my life to not feel like a total loser thirtysomething who didn’t have her s#*t together.

I didn’t have the money at the time to be taking more courses; I was working full time to pay my bills and was already so so so tired every day. It was certainly not the ideal time to be starting over.

And, the cherry on top was that I wasn’t feeling like I was even capable of anything else and I wondered if I really deserved anything more.

But I had to do something.

The only thing I felt like doing was writing, so I searched, “How to be a writer.”

Google said, “Get a blog.”

Obviously, I listened.

Long story short, I now have a solid readership in 6 different countries. My blog turned into a coaching practice I love and I now teach others about how they can get a do-over a lot easier than they think.

I still teach, yes – but it’s on my terms. I’m never so so so tired anymore because of what I do. And, most importantly, I’m so so so much happier.

Wanna know the secret?
All I really did was follow what I love and rejig my schedule. It didn’t cost a thing and now I even have more time than when I started.

Wanna know more?

Very soon I’ll be doing a quickie webinar on the steps that helped me figure out this new plan. It’s all based on everything I also put into my ebook, DO-Over: How to Redesign Your Life to Get What You Really Want , but I’ll give you some added tips and tricks to help you apply this in a personal way.

 

If you’re in a similar spot or have been in the past, the webinar will show you how to get clear before you start experimenting all over the place and wasting precious time and money figuring out ‘the right thing’ to do.

I know now that I’ll never have everything ‘all figured out,’ but I also know I have gained some serious experience points and tips that have helped me become successful, and they still help me when I get in tight spots now.

Sign up for the webinar and you’ll see for yourself how simple the process of starting over can be – and why you need to get started… yesterday!

 

In related news, yesterday was National Unicorn Day. It’s the perfect time to believe in your own magic to make something happen. And if you’re not into unicorns and universe energy woowoo, then well, I feel sorry for you but I’ll try to cheer you up with this:

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Always believe in magic, baby!

Get started HERE today to be committed to the life you’ve always dreamed of!

Spring Forward Stress-Free

Like January 1st, the spring is a great time to re-evaluate, rejuvenate and try again to prioritize the things that really matter.

It may also be time to check in on how much we are stressing or worrying about a certain nagging detail and nip it in the bud (pun intended).

For me, I’ve been a little too focused on my health and being unforgiving about my injured back that keeps me from feeling my best. I’m ready to use the spring to get out into the warm weather for some refreshing jaunts and light jogs and keep guilt out of it.

We can only do what we can, but it starts with some attention to detail. And often, forgiveness.

So now I’m curious about what that is for YOU.

Would you mind taking this short survey to share your thoughts? It takes less than a minute, and then you can go back to prepping the garden and getting out the summer clothes.

Many thanks:)

 

Take a short survey to share your biggest challenge to overcome this spring